These things aren't acceptable.
You might pretend that it means nothing. You might act like it doesn’t bother you. And you might even come up with a thousand excuses just to justify the things he does.
But no matter how you choose to deal with it, the truth remains- there are some things that no boyfriend, husband, significant other, or human being should ever be allowed to do to another human being.
If you feel like your partner does any of these 9 things, then maybe it’s time to start re-evaluating your relationship.
Picking apart your looks
“You would look so much better if you just cut your hair a little shorter.” “Is it me or has your skin color gotten a little dark lately?” “You should really take a class on how to dress up or wear makeup when you go out…” A good man will never make comments about your appearance in a demeaning manner or make you feel bad about the way you look.
Sometimes, when your partner keeps doing this, he is consciously trying to lower your self-worth in order to ensure that you don’t have the confidence left to leave him. It is his way of controlling you and it is a form of emotional abuse. Do not allow it!
Invading your privacy
You never feel the need to hide things from your partner when you’re in a healthy relationship. Whatsapp, Email, Facebook messages- none of it matters. But that doesn’t imply that your partner should have the full right to snoop around all of it the minute you look away or leave your phone or laptop with them.
If your partner keeps reading all of your conversations, if they keep checking up on your camera roll, and if they keep questioning you on every name that comes up on your screen, then he is dealing with a great number of insecurities and he might even be projecting his own issues and infidelities onto you. Don’t keep ignoring this.
If you ever want to know how self- confident a person is, just observe the way they help to support another person’s ambitions. A good man will always be ready to support and help the people around him, without ever being discouraging or rude.
And when you’re in a relationship, your partner should recognize your value instead of making you feel the need to keep proving it to him. He should appreciate and value the person you are, and not the things you do or the way you sell yourself to them.
Making you feel like an afterthought
You should never expect your partner to make this relationship his entire life, but it should definitely be one of the biggest parts of his life. You’re both entitled to have your own life, to enjoy your alone time, and to hang out with your friends whenever you want.
But if you constantly feel like you’re always an option in his life and never a priority, if the only time you both meet is when you call him up to make a plan, and if you can think of countless times when you got ditched suddenly for a guy’s night, then it’s time to step back and look at what your place in his life really is. - Continue reading on next page