Insecurities are natural and acceptable to an extent. But when you’ve been in a relationship long enough, there shouldn’t be any room left for them. They tend to make you needy and fussy. Even if your partner isn’t planning on leaving you, you might possibly be driving them away. Even though you think that it’s something they are or they aren’t doing that gives rise to these insecurities, it’s only you that conjures up all these negative thoughts. So it’s because of YOU and not them (in most cases), that you feel the way you do.
If you’re feeling insecure, here are a few things that you could do to possibly rid yourself of this dilemma:
Stop jumping to conclusions
They’re running late and haven’t called you; they must be with someone else. They haven’t been spending much time at home; they probably don’t want to be around you. And so many other scenarios where you don’t even consider any other possibility except for the worst. If they haven’t called, you could call them, and if they aren’t answering maybe they’re driving or something. If they haven’t been spending much time at home it could be because they’ve other things to tend to. Instead of expecting the most terrible, just ask them and stop bothering yourself over nothing.