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  • Did he Friendzone you?

    friend zone

    There are countless memes on the internet of girls trapping guys in a friendzone and because of this generalisation, we often don’t believe that the roles can be reversed.

    First of all, let’s get rid of a common misconception about the dreaded friendzone. It doesn’t mean that he doesn’t like you, it just means that he doesn’t like you in the way that you do. Is it possible that he might? Sure! But at the moment, he sees you as a friend and would very much like it to stay that way.

    People usually think that it’s a bad thing to be given the hint; however, it’s actually better for everyone that a friendzone exists. Instead of relentlessly pursuing someone and wondering why he doesn’t like you when he does hang out with you and is fine with talking to you, you need to look at all the signs there are telling you to stop otherwise it’ll just get awkward.

    Most articles on this topic give signs such as ‘he doesn’t like being touched’. I don’t like being touched either, I have my personal space and I won’t appreciate someone constantly touching my shoulder. These signs are about as genuine as they get and they’re a little less cliche and a little more realistic.

    1. He hints it.

    A lot of people think that if someone doesn’t like a person beyond just being friends, they should tell them. The fact is that the other person doesn’t outwardly say it either, they too only hint at it. If you ask a direct question, you’ll get a direct answer but when you hint at it then you’ll get hints in return.