I’m not here to act all condescending or to ridicule you for the decisions you have made. I know how it feels. I know it’s not in your control. I know how you believe he will change one day. I completely get the things you’re going through right now. Because I was once in the exact same place. I felt the exact same things and I always believed that things would change one day. Before I met the love of my life, I always ended up wasting my time and efforts on guys who clearly did not care about me at all, who never treated me like a priority, and who were probably never really in love with me at all.
But my question to all you girls out there is this- Why do we act this way? Why do we put ourselves through so much pain and uncertainty for a person who isn’t even worth it?
You meet a guy. You find him charming. The first date leads to a few more. You laugh on his adorable jokes. You can’t help and notice how intelligent he is. And you just can’t seem to get enough of him. Everything feels perfect except for one tiny detail- he just doesn’t really seem that into you. So you sit around, make plans with him over and over again, and you keep investing your time and efforts into a person who is clearly very uninterested because you hope that he will magically change one day.
Why do you think this happens? Have all the romantic movies we’ve seen and the sappy novels we’re read disillusioned us into believing that ANYTHING can happen? Have they forced us into thinking that the more you suffer, the better ending you’ll get in your love life? Have they permeated our brains to make us settle for less than we actually deserve? The fact of the matter is that the people in our lives very rarely change. They rarely turn into a completely different version of themselves- a version that make us happier and a version that we would prefer to see. And even when they do, it only happens because THEY want to, not because someone else expects them to. – Continue reading on the next page