I am sure many of you have been through situations where you meet a guy, and it’s all butterflies and fireworks. You just click like that. You meet this amazing guy who seems like he’s been made for you. It’s a rollercoaster ride and you find yourself spiraling, falling head over heels for him. You blink and things move faster than you thought they would, you can’t even get a chance to breathe. You can’t get enough of him; he’s all you think about, all the time. You have the same taste in everything, if not, you find yourself falling in love with everything he loves because that’s how it was in the books and movies, right? You talk on call for hours on end and time flies by in a blink.
You find yourself obsessing over him when he’s not talking to you; he’s taken hostage of your thoughts and mind. You feel like an addict, like he’s gotten under your skin and flows in your blood, and all you need is a hit of him to make everything okay. You feel consumed by thoughts of him and make every effort to be the epitome of perfection he’s looking for. But he keeps you on your toes all the time and you’re always left with a feeling that he could do better than you and can leave you. And that fear keeps you from thinking rationally about anything, because hey, that’s what love is and what love does, right? It says so in the books, anyway.
Then there’s another situation, where you meet a guy, and he’s alright. He doesn’t give you butterflies in your tummy, doesn’t make your heart flutter, but he’s nice, he’s sweet, you’re happy. You talk to him on and off whenever he calls, but don’t obsess over every teeny tiny minuscule detail. You have a good time with him; you guys have tonnes of things in common. You hang out and find out a bit more about him, he seems interesting enough, and he catches your attention. He’s a gentleman, things are going nice and at a reasonable pace, and you feel good about the two of you. There’s no crazy passion where you feel you’re going to rip each other’s clothes off, no breathlessness, but a more mature relationship where you take your time with getting to know the guy before jumping into bed with him at the first chance you get. You feel like he respects your space and you’re comfortable knowing that.
Which one of these two do you think are going to be your happily ever after? I’m positive you’re going to say it’s the second one where you take your time figuring things out in your head. But sadly, it’s actually the first we’re going to fall for. Us females are programmed to be emotional creatures. We tend to act first and think later. That’s just how we are. Plus hey, we’ve read countless books and seen innumerable chick flicks where the girl meets a guy and they fall in love! Why would real life be any different than our fantasy? Didn’t the Disney princesses just meet their princes and fell in love as soon as their eyes met? Continue reading…