No matter how amazing of a guy you think you are, no matter how highly you rank yourself on the list of ‘Best Boyfriends Ever’, the thing you’re bound to slip on is giving out compliments. Everyone may think that this is solely because girls are picky, well yes, they are picky and most of them do tend to be overly sensitive but to say that it’s only their fault is unfair.
I feel like since I’ve generalised some flaws in women, I get to point out some about men, they’re clueless. It’s like hearing compliments from your partner sometimes is the equivalent of banging your head against the wall.
Compliments shouldn’t be thought of as the easiest things ever since they’re just ‘words’, right? Wrong. Words can start wars. The wrong compliment can start a cold war. Even though you intended it as a good thing, your intention isn’t what showed, your incompetence did.
A compliment needs to be given according to the circumstances. You might have heard people say that a compliment has no time boundaries; however, the truth is that in order to make a compliment an effective one, it needs to be said at the right time.
The second thing you need to remember when giving a woman a compliment is what her preferences are. She might like compliments about her appearance more than her mannerisms or vice versa. If you’re someone who finds themselves to be turned down each time you give a harmless compliment, it might be because (other than her sensitiveness) your obliviousness to assess the situation.
“I think its adorable how you *insert specific mannerism*”
Something which every girl absolutely adores is when their guy notices the little things about them which even they are unaware of. However, the second their partner mentions it, they feel like they’re the luckiest person on the planet to have them.
The thing with these specific compliments is that you can’t go wrong with them. No matter how hard you think this is, I assure you it’s the easiest trick in the book to win anyone’s heart because you’ve probably been with your partner long enough to recognise a few little things about her.