Sex should NEVER be the highlight of your relationship.
The common misconception that intimacy is directly related to sex has gone on for far too long. While the two are surely related to one another, they do not define each other. An intimate relationship doesn't necessarily qualify as one where the couple has sex often. Intimacy refers to maintaining a close personal bond with someone. In order to achieve this bond i.e. have an intimate relationship, a couple has to go through a whole process. This process is governed by several steps, not just one.
1- They talk A LOT:
When two people develop strong feelings for one another and reach a point where they're ready to let them into each other's lives, they form a relationship. The very foundation of any genuine relationship is love, which is as intimate as it gets.
The love at the start of the relationship is usually way more than at the end. So, a newly formed relationship might seem more intimate. The reason is that in the start people talk to one another. They like knowing about all the details of each other’s lives. They communicate about feelings and issues. They keep their bond strong by developing more and more love for their partner. Later on, people tend to get bored and the relationship eventually diminishes.
There are, fortunately, a few examples of couples who made it. If you ask any of them, they'll tell you that in order to keep their love strong and everlasting, they talked. They didn't stop communicating like other couples because they got bored. Instead, they overcame any sense of awkwardness by talking more.
People in relationships often overlook little things. For example, they might think that said detail isn't worth mentioning or that a little lie won't hurt anyone. They slowly begin to disregard their relationship and before long, it ends. It's such a gradual process that couples are often left wondering, "What went wrong?" They got so accustomed to it all that it became the norm.
2- Agree to disagree:
You might be in a relationship with them and you might be sharing almost everything, but you don't control them. With time, couples get unbalanced. One partner begins to call all the shots while the other is expected to sit still and nod their heads. Such a relationship can only be expected to last so long. It's destined to end from the very first time someone decided that they were the boss.
Is it possible that one person can make potentially better decisions? Yes, however, that person doesn't have the right to consider themselves as the official decision maker of the relationship. They can advise and help, but not decide. A relationship needs mutual efforts in order to strive.
No two people in the world are exactly alike in all respects. Even if you're in a relationship with them, they aren't compelled to become your mirror image. They can have a difference of opinion and it's completely natural. You need to learn to agree to disagree. If anything harms them, then by all means go ahead. However, do not decide that you're right and they're wrong. - Continue reading on next page