How to make yourself strong after a breakup

Misty Renee Posted a year ago
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Breakups are hard. They can be excruciatingly painful. They can make you feel like there is no hope left in the world, like you’ll never find anybody else and like you’ll never recover from this one event in your life. We’ve all been there. We all know how horrible it feels. And we all know how we still managed to come out of it alive and strong.

If you have just been through a breakup and you can’t figure out what to do with your life now, then just follow these steps to get over the pain and come out of this stronger than before:

Step 1: Cope with your grief

  • Just accept that this pain is normal

You are not turning into a psycho. You are not going to feel depressed forever. And you are not the only person who has ever felt or acted this way. The pain, hurt and all the reactions caused by them are completely normal. You just lost one of the most important people in your life and you’re bound to stay affected by it for some time to come.

  • Don’t hold it in

Stop pretending that you’re fine. Stop acting like everything’s normal. If you keep all your feelings bottled up for now, they will keep showing up and affecting you adversely in the long run. You have to process what you feel and you have to let it all out if you ever want to move on from this. If you feel like crying, cry your heart out. If you want to spend an entire day in bed, then stop worrying about everything else and take a day off. If you want to rant about how angry you are, grab your friend and tell them all about it.

  • Write about it

There is no better way to be in touch with your actual feelings than writing about it. Write about how you lonely you feel. Write about how angry you are. Write about all the experiences you had during the relationship and during the breakup. Don’t worry about spelling and grammar mistakes. This piece of writing is just for you. It’s there to help you accept. It’s there to help you cope. And it’s there to help you reflect better on everything that’s going on in your life.

  • Examine what you’ve written

Go over everything you’ve written. Pay attention to how your feelings have evolved and changed every time you write about them. Notice how your writing has become a little less sad with each passing day. This will help you see the progress you’re making. It will help you realize how every feeling turns out to be temporary. And it will help you realize that this moment too shall pass. *Continue reading on next page*