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    I gulped nervously, rubbed my sweaty hands on my jeans, sighed and stared at my watch with an intention to make the time stop. Stop! Somebody stop the time, my kid must be getting upset sitting alone at school waiting for me. It had been 10 minutes past the time I usually pick him up, and I was still standing in the queue to deposit my uncle’s check. Finally when I was about to leave to pick my son up, my uncle called me to run an errand for him. Which according to him was too important, to be put on hold for half an hour. I kept on stammering but I just could not bring myself to tell him that my son was more important to me than his stupid errand!

    Humans are born with different personalities. Some are generally vocal and expressive, while others are quiet and gentle. Some are more giving than others and some are too lazy to even get their own glass of water. It’s human nature to bully the meek. Everyone finds a person who is weaker and more humble than they are, and is used to being taken advantage off.

    It should be up to the weaker individual to ensure that they should not be used. This is something that people need to understand, there is a fine line between being kind and generous and being a weakling. There are a few things I want to share that I have learnt over time to make sure that I am not being taken for granted.

    1. Give yourself importance

    Know that your life is more important than anyone else’s life. You have to first determine what is important to you. One should not stop being a good and charitable person but needs to weigh the options and prioritize their tasks. First fulfil your own responsibilities and then step forward to help others. – Continue reading on next page