I Looked At My Girlfriend And I Asked, “Why Do Girls Settle?”

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I couldn’t help but wonder to myself as I looked at my beautiful girlfriend: “Did she settle for me?” The thought gripped me in a way that I didn’t expect it could. I wanted to talk about it, but I wanted to say the right words. I had to think about it a little more...

It was a random night and we just happened to be sitting on the couch after a hefty dinner that she prepared for the both of us in her apartment. A news report flashed on TV saying how a study had shown that more and more women felt like they were settling in their relationships. I found it interesting at the thought of women settling in relationships. Did they feel like they deserved more out of a man? Did they feel like they were entitled to better things? I couldn’t help but wonder to myself as I looked at my beautiful girlfriend: “Did she settle for me?” The thought gripped me in a way that I didn’t expect it could. I wanted to talk about it, but I wanted to say the right words. I had to think about it a little more. I had to see where girls are coming from and what possible factors could have led them to feel that way in particular. Is it possible for men to feel the same way? Do men ever feel like they just “settle” for the girls that they date?

I had to take a good hard look at my relationship and the dynamics of what makes us a couple. What are our strengths and what are our weaknesses? What are the ins and outs of our love story? Let’s start with dissecting the individuals that make up the love team. First with me; I’m a simpleton. An average joe who feels like he has to make up for his aesthetic imperfections with wit, charm, and natural charisma. I am no David Beckham by any means when it comes to look, but I think I can still hold my own in a collection of male libido.

Now on to my girlfriend, she’s the complete opposite of who I am. She’s the kind of woman who demands the attention of whatever room she’s in. She offers a face so soft and attractive, that it’s worthy of at least 586 double-takes on her daily walks and commutes. She has an alluring smile and eyes that offer warmth and protection from the harshness of the world. She’s a great conversationalist and has the uncanny ability to make anyone feel like what they’re saying is actually interesting. She’s smart and she always manages to hold her own.

So how did our love story start? It’s nothing special. It’s not as grand as Kate Beckinsale and John Cusack’s meet-cute in Serendipity. We had mutual friends who introduced us one night, and gradually, our friendship evolved into what it has become today. It’s been absolutely swell, but we’ve also had our share of troubles. We are both rational and thinking people so we’ve had our disagreements every now and then. We are both emotional and so sometimes, we let our emotions get the best of us during heated moments. - Continue reading on the next page