If they hesitate to choose you, it isn’t love

Kaetlyn Summers Posted a year ago
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If you pour your heart and soul out and risk heartbreak all over one guy or girl and the response you get is an uninterested one, it feels like crap but it doesn’t stop you from making up a future reality where Mr. don’t really care happens to wake up one day and realize that he’s doing nothing and going nowhere in life because of the fact that he’s alone and then magically the first thought he has of a potential partner is you and then he begs at your door step and gets down on one knee within like 3 months of your relationship and you deny him because he’s moving too fast and he says he’ll wait for you because you’re his one and only forever and ever…

You see all these people with their handsome Mr. I don’t-cares and you think that it’s just sad that they fall into mere men’s traps and spend all this time waiting for a man who doesn’t even like them and you’re blind to the fact that it could ever happen to you. Nope there’s no chance that Mr. I don’t care is like the others. Hell realize, hell fall for me, he will.

And then you become somewhat obsessive.

It’s your duty to make them understand to make them love you all in the hopes that one day you’ll get your happily ever after. You have this perfect scenario in your head and you’ve molded it to fit with that one guy who only says a few extra lines at the end of the day which your mind automatically over exaggerated to you make you feel like your worth something to the other half of your one-sided love.

If he texts you at 3 am, you automatically program yourself to think he can’t sleep because he’s thinking of you… girl, no, he can’t sleep and hence he thought of you, because he was bored and you were there.

You cannot convince anyone to fall in love with you. If you’re the one who initiates the making of plans, who initiates any meeting, who thinks of thoughtful presents, who thinks of covering up for his mistakes and you can see none of it being reciprocated. He doesn’t love you. - Continue reading on next page