The relationships that ended badly and the people we left behind weren’t necessarily an incarnation of pure evil. Life is a never ending learning process and we need to make a few big mistakes, get stuck with some wrong people and have torturous relationships to actually learn and to make ourselves better and stronger for the second chance that we might get, for that next person who’ll enter our lives.

So every time we fall down, every time we get our hearts broken and every time we do the same to someone else, we get a few valuable lessons. We learn what mistakes shouldn’t be repeated and what actions should be maintained in the future.

Here are 10 things that my past relationships have taught me well:

  1. Sh*t happens

You get busy with your careers, one of you moves to another city, you start talking less and less with every passing day and at one point, it just stops feeling like you’re even in a relationship. Sometimes, it’s not clearly one person’s fault when a relationship ends. Sometimes, your biggest enemy isn’t your partner, it’s not the distance between you and it’s not even your fluctuating feelings. The real enemy is just life, sometimes.

It doesn’t go as planned, it doesn’t give you the time to adjust and everything just starts falling apart. Stop fighting for something that has stopped making you happy and set each other free to find your separate destinies.

  1. Accept yourself for who you are

Flaunt your assets all you want but don’t try to hide the things you’re conscious of. Accept the fact that your teeth aren’t perfectly straight but your smile still is absolutely beautiful. Accept that your partner’s ex was much taller than you and don’t try to hide your height by wearing uncomfortable heels all the time. Be confident about exactly who you are because that’s what makes you more attractive.

  1. The universe doesn’t revolve around you

Your partner just got back from a long hard day at work. Just because they’re not paying complete attention to what you’re saying at the moment doesn’t mean they’ve stopped loving you. Everything in the world is not about you! Give them time to relax. Don’t just start creating a scene and don’t mistake exhaustion for indifference! Continue reading to next page