Stop treating your boyfriend/husband like a school project. Yes, you’re right. He’s not perfect. He has his flaws. He has his imperfections. But so do you. How would you feel if he started treating you like a project of his own fantasies? It’s little doubt that you would take it lightly. Love comes with complete acceptance.
Sometimes, relationships don’t end up working because of unmet expectations. Either two things are to blame in this scenario: the relationship for not living up the expectations, or the expectations that were just set too high. Make sure that you’re not the type of girl who instigates the latter. You shouldn’t be setting exceedingly high expectations for your boyfriends. When you do that, you’re only setting yourself up for failure. Before you get into a relationship with someone, you have to be able to get to know them well and understand the kind of person that you’re getting close to. You don’t have the right to get to know a guy, and then expect him to turn into a completely different guy once you’re in a relationship together. Personalities don’t work like that. Life doesn’t work like that. A lot of times when you meet a guy, what you see is what you get. Yes, you can get to know him better, but he can only show you more of who he really is the deeper you can get into the relationship. You can’t possibly turn him into someone he’s not.
Stop treating your boyfriend like a school project. Yes, you’re right. He’s not perfect. He has his flaws. He has his imperfections. But so do you. How would you feel if he started treating you like a project of his own fantasies? It’s little doubt that you would take it lightly. You should be able to respect a person’s individuality. It’s okay to ask him to make little improvements here and there. It’s only natural for everyone to want to get better every day. That’s part of life. Striving to make subtle developments in life here and there. But it’ totally unreasonable for you to ask him to live up to your own personal fantasies of the type of man that he should be like. He deserves better than that. He deserves more respect as a man and as a human being. No one should ever be forced to become who they’re not meant to be. If you go into a relationship having a mindset of ownership over someone else, then things are certainly not going to end well for either of you. You are both your own selves who are trying to make your own ways in this very complicated world. - Continue reading on the next page