You all know I’m always talking about being selfless and doing more for people than they do for you, but too much of anything can be destructive and selflessness is not always good. It can come at the cost of your own happiness. Once you start giving too much, all people will want is to take as much as they can and leave you when you are drained and have nothing more to give.
Following are some of the telltale signs that you are giving too much.
1. People start to take advantage of your nature of being kind and compromising:
When you start putting other people before your own self, selfish people start to notice. All of your acquaintances would, consciously or subconsciously, take advantage of you. They will start to expect that you will always be there for them and do whatever it is that they ask you to do. If you can’t help them with their monitory needs, they will expect you to be there for their emotional needs, but when you will want something from them, they would simply disappear.
However, your true friends will never take advantage of your selflessness. If you do not want to get rid of your selfless nature, you are better off surrounding yourself with true friends.
There is a strong chance that the people who take advantage of you tell other stories about your selflessness and possibly make fun of you. To avoid being taken advantage of, the first step is to learn to say no. Learning to say no is one of the hardest things in life, especially when you are a selfless person, but once you master the skill, you will be much happier and you will start to deflect unreasonable requests and demands.
Moreover, if you really want to be kind and selfless, then engage in social work. It is much better to help strangers that are in much more need than the needy acquaintances who don’t even appreciate your efforts. *Continue reading to next page*