The divorce rates in most parts of the world have increased. Due to this problem there is a separate branch of psychology known as marital psychology. Psychologists are studying relationships and factors which lead to either a good relationship or a bad one. No one likes to get into problems related to their intimate life. Sometimes people wonder what went wrong that led them to a point where they no longer want to be with the person who they once used to love so fiercely.
There have been hundreds of researches on intimate relationships. Many researches have proven that there are habits in a relationship that might not seem to be right, whereas other studies have proven that those habits are important in a healthy relationship. Let us take the example of a quarrel between a husband and wife. They fight and they get mad at each other and the moment they get out of it, they start to love each other even more. This is how it works. There is a certain level of ‘good’ in the ‘bad’. Similarly, some habits which may look bad are actually healthy for a relationship.
A few of these habits are mentioned below:
1. Letting the conflicts go or keeping them unresolved:
John Gottman is a psychologist who has done extensive research on relationships as well as marriage life. According to Gottman, the belief that the couples that communicate the most are the ones who remain successful is not always true. His research consisted of hundreds of happily married couples that had several unresolved issues. Another thing he observed was that those couples fought over those unresolved issues from time to time. Gottman believes that there should be a certain extent of disagreement in a couple. His research also consisted of many unsuccessful couples and those were the ones who insisted on resolving their issues every time.