All relationships go through ups and downs, good times and bad times.
And within the blink of an eye, a harmless discussion can turn into a heated argument with just one wrong word uttered in a moment of stress or frustration. You need to constantly protect yourself as well as your partner from getting hurt by actively avoiding that one word in all of your conversations. And before I go on to reveal this important word, here are a few important things that need to be understood:
The words that need to be avoided in a relationship
Communication is one of the most important aspects of any relationship, and that entails both the verbal and non-verbal sides of all your interactions. And strong communication is essential for each partner if they ever hope to get their physical and emotional needs met.
Communication with a significant other is both about expressing the things you feel, and getting the things you truly need with the help of your partner. And during the course of this communication, you can end up saying the one word that should always be avoided in a relationship.
The power of words to hurt your relationship
Some researchers at the University of Texas at Austin studied the power of hurtful words in a relationship. Their findings revealed that it isn’t necessarily the words themselves that end up hurting an individual, but the perception of their intent that ends up doing the most damage.
The researchers said,
“Results indicated that people who judged something an individual said to them as intentionally hurtful felt the comment had more of a distancing effect on their relationship with the individual than did those who perceived the message as unintentionally hurtful. Furthermore, those who viewed the comment as intentionally hurtful tended to be less satisfied with the relationship they had with the person who hurt them and felt less close to the person than did those who saw it as unintentional.”
When you lash out at someone in a moment of frustration because you’re really tired, hungry, or just having a bad day, then it’s likely that your partner will forgive you because they understand that you didn’t mean to hurt them. But if your hurtful words start reflecting a pattern of negative behavior towards them, it is likely that they will start perceiving your words as intentionally hurtful. - Continue reading on next page