Relationships need a lot of practice to be perfected, many of us lose ourselves while we try to hold on to the people who consider us an option, it’s your life and you can walk out whenever you want to. Most of us don’t realise how tasty a candy is until we have consumed it. Once it is gone, we have nothing left but sweet memories. If you have been a jerk in your relationship, maybe you will realise it when the person is gone. Remember, if you breakup with a person that you thought wasn’t a perfect match, and end up missing them months after the separation, it means that maybe; you were the one at fault. It was that person who was the perfect one for you after all. The world doesn’t end when a relationship ends. There are many flavours of candy out in the market. It’s up to you which one to choose now. Unhealthy relationships have a lot to offer.
1. They teach you to value yourself and existence
When you finally gather up the courage to break through, you will realise that losing a person that brought no honour to your relationship is a gain, not a loss. You will finally learn to value who you are and will stop objectifying yourself for things you weren’t responsible for.
I have always seen this happen, the moment they see us happy and moving on with life, they want us back. They have had this idea that the reason we put up with their bullshit was because we couldn’t find someone better than them or we would be miserable without them. They have this sick twisted impression of you, that you will not go anywhere. When they finally find out how wrong they were and the reason you hung around was love. The moment they realise this, they want you back. Now, you need to respect yourself enough to keep moving on because your respect is everything to you!