‘There are things that are okay to compromise. There are things that are not okay to compromise. Life is about learning the difference’.
All your life basically fixates around compromise. It goes beyond romantic relationships, and isn’t always the easiest choice to make, especially in relationships. When you have really strong feelings for someone, they tend to take over your mind, and keep you from thinking straight. But compromise is essential for a healthy relationship all the same.
To be compromising, you do not always have to give into everything they say or want, or always be the first one to apologize, or always give up on what you want. It’s about finding the right balance. Where you shouldn’t bend over backwards for them, you shouldn’t be inflexible either. The struggle is real!
Here are the things you should definitely not compromise on:
Set your priorities straight, well before getting into a relationship. Your values define who you’re and you shouldn’t give up on them for anyone or anything. There could be a lot of things you’d never compromise on; like your religious beliefs and practices, the importance of your family and friends, your education, career and so on. You might want to draw certain boundaries in your relationship. The things you’re and you’re not comfortable with. And most importantly what would you want/need from a relationship. All these things ought to be invariable. (Don’t let their smile weaken you!)
We’ve all witnessed people who once couldn’t stop talking about their dreams, but as soon as they got into a relationship, not only did they stop talking about them, but their goals changed altogether. You’re still the same person and you shouldn’t have to give up on something you’ve always wanted just because of a change in your relationship status. If anything your partner should help you live your dreams. If you want it bad enough, you’ll find a way to make it happen. Don’t ever stop looking!
You come first; at all times and at all costs. Even when you’re head over heels in love with them, do not stop looking out for yourself. If they’re harming you in any way, it isn’t acceptable. Physical or emotional abuse, any restrictions on who you can or cannot see, or what you can or cannot do, any sort of pressure to do something or not do something, basically anything that you feel is an attempt to take control of your life. As an individual you’re entitled to do whatever you please, and see whoever you please as well. You’re also entitled to deny anything you’re not comfortable with. You’re better off single than in a relationship with a toxic person. Choose emotional and mental peace over such a relationship.
And now, the things you CAN compromise on, move on to the next page.