7 Things to Remember When You Feel Cheated On

Kaetlyn Summers Posted a year ago
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Life isn’t fair, it’s just a coin toss and you never know what side you will get despite how hard you struggle to be on the right side of things. Sometimes, you are cheated on by fate and sometimes you get cheated by your own emotions. Emotions that you have guarded throughout your life and yet somehow, someone has found a way to shatter them into smithereens.

There is always someone you encounter in your life that has started a rebellion inside you. He or she has left you fighting with your own insecurities and cracked open your skull. You lose your mind thinking what could have been and what you could have done right to make things work. It’s time to stop fighting and start forgiving yourself.

One of the hardest things to do in life is to look at the person in the mirror and tell him that I’m sorry. I made you go through hell because I thought it was you who was the cause of tragedy in my life but you were only trying to move through an agonizing time just like I was. You needed the same support that I did but I disappointed you by always holding you culpable and punishing you with self-hatred day in and day out.

If you ever feel lost after being cheated on, here is some advice that I have amassed over the years that will help you out.

1. You are at war with Mortals like pain and depression- Not even did they find the elixir of youth

Sometimes, the pain makes you suffer to an extent that you have suicidal thoughts in your mind. I can understand that because we have all gone through such episodes and at these times, no kind words will ever help you out. No matter what anyone says, they will not be able to get through to you. The pain and emptiness and the hopelessness will form a deadly alliance and continue to besiege you in the darkest hours of the night.

In times like these, you need to accept that you are at war with yourself. You are not at war with someone else’s inflicted pain or someone else’s mistakes. You are at war with your current state. Wars aren’t won by weak men who aren’t prepared to accept the harsh realities of life.

I was always told that the people who will always walk with you through their worst are the ones who deserve to be with you at your best. Well, If you can’t fight for yourself when times get tough, do you really believe that you deserve yourself at times of merriment? Have you really earned it? How can you face your inner human when you quit on him when things got bad for him?

Sometimes, I sit and I reminisce all my pain and suffering and I smile at it because  I survived it all and now that I’m free from all that in the present I think I truly earned it and  I wouldn’t feel the same if I didn’t have that harsh times in my life. - Continue reading on next page