To the person who is worried after their First Breakup

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After her first breakup, she was very depressed, her whole world had changed. It was like someone had moved her centre of gravity and she was left floating in a space created of her own pain. She felt as if an important part of her was ripped away. She somehow managed through the day, the busier it was the easier it was for her to push her pain aside, but the nights, they were rough, and memories of her ex haunted her.

Loneliness was the only emotion she felt, she didn’t feel like doing anything most of the time, she felt useless. Hopelessness had become a part of her existence. She feared that she might not ever feel loved again. Life seemed too long. It was hard to breathe, to blink, to feel and the world seemed colourless. Had she really become incapable to love and trust?

Situations like these come in everyone’s life. You are not the only one to feel the way you do. Listen, it’s okay to feel this way because you have been hurt. It would not be okay if you didn’t feel the way you did. Most people have to face these experiences alone. It may be a warning situation for the person and their family if not dealt with properly, but everything can be handled with love, patience and kindness.

As human beings, we understand that happiness, sorrow, success and failure are an important part of life. Where happiness and success help you grow confident and make you a sensible part of the society. It is sorrow and failure that build your character and give you the best lessons of all. Once you have faced these obstacles, you come back stronger than ever. So, every trauma, emotion and situation has its own importance in your life. Every person might look like an enemy to you and you might think that there is a scammer sitting around every corner, just to swindle you. You start looking at this world from a different perspective.

After going through such an experience, ideas, perceptions and your ability to show kindness; everything changes. Pain gives birth to a new person. For any person who faced failure with their first true love, hear me out,

‘You need to surround yourself by people who care for you, people who understand you and people who show kindness to you and everyone else, so that you too may be able to find within yourself the compassion that you once had’.

No doubt, bad experiences are heavy on the heart, but it does not mean that you should give them the chance to take over your mind, soul and body. *Continue reading to the next page*