An amazing thing happens when you get honest with yourself and start doing what you love, what makes you happy. You stop wishing for the weekend. You stop merely looking forward to special events. You begin to live in each moment and you start feeling like a human being. You just ride the wave that is life, with this feeling of contentment and joy. You move fluidly, steadily, calm and grateful. A veil is lifted, and a whole new perspective is born.
Honesty is an art. All this world needs is a bit of color and sunshine spilled here and there; it needs art, in any form it comes in. So when you are being honest to yourself and to others, you are painting a picture that can never fade away…simply because the truth can never be killed, no matter how significant the suffocation of Reality and Time around it might be. Besides, everyone else is already taken, so be honest, be yourself. That is a hard feat to accomplish, though, given we live in a world constantly trying to change us and silence the voice of truth within us. But if that voice is loud enough, nothing and no one can smother us to silence it.
Here, we look at the 5 best things that happen when you get completely honest with yourself. And once you take this step, learning to be honest with others happens by itself, without you even trying.
1. You get in tune with what you really want
You do not always know what you want and need, not really anyway. Sometimes, it is the heavy clouds of fear, doubt, insecurity or depression cloaking your sky of objectives in life. You feel like you are sitting on the sidewalks, watching life pass by but not knowing what you want for yourself.
You become so accustomed to hearing others tell you what to do and say that you lose sight of what you yourself want. It becomes intoxicating at times, doesn’t it? That is when you need to shut that outside noise and listen instead to the voice of truth lying dormant within you.
As Clark Moustakas said,
“Accept everything about yourself–I mean everything, You are you and that is the beginning and the end–no apologies, no regrets.”
Be honest to yourself about what you actually like, not what someone else told you to like; ask yourself what you want to do with your and where you want to be instead of relying on what people have always been cramming up inside you. It is your life and you alone have to live with the consequences of your decisions. So how will you get in tune with those decisions in the first place? When you choose honesty for and from within yourself.
“I lay and cried, and began to feel again, to admit I was human, vulnerable, sensitive. I began to remember how it had been before; how there was that germ of positive creativeness. Character is fate; and damn, I'd better work on my character. I had been withdrawing into a retreat of numbness: it is so much safer not to feel, not to let the world touch one. But my honest self revolted at this, hated me for doing this.”
–Sylvia Plath *Continue reading on next page*