I thought of writing about this after having a very mind-boggling conversation with a very close friend of mine. As you all know, I’m not one for having one relationship after the other. I’m 26 years old and I’ve been in four relationships in total (all very serious and mature). But this friend of mine is just something else. He’s notorious for dating one girl after the other, “flings” is the word I’m looking for. So I finally sat down with him and asked him about it, about how he manages to find happiness out of these flings because I simply don’t see a point to them, something so temporary and shallow just can’t bring happiness to anyone’s life. The conversation went from very casual to very heated, very quickly.
After a good two hours of disagreeing and face-palming myself, I came to the conclusion that some people just don’t want to be in serious relationships. The girls he has been with are the same as him, they don’t want anything serious either, they just want short-lived flings, there’s no guilt or pain involved whatsoever, and that’s what baffles me the most. After a thorough analysis of what goes on in the minds of people who do this, I’ve made a list of things that happen when people get into a relationship with someone with no worries of the future. This may sound a bit harsh to some of you, so read it with an open mind.
You’re not scared of breaking up with them
When I’m in a relationship with someone, the thing that scares me the most is the thought of disconnecting from them, the thought that maybe one day we may have to part ways (for one reason or the other) and then I start thinking of the trauma and pain that comes with it, but it’s a completely different scenario when it comes to flings and non-serious relationships. When you’re in a fling with someone, you don’t care about breaking up with them.
This is because there isn’t any real emotional connection between two people when they’re non-serious about each other and are just “having fun”. There is no deep emotional attachment, there are no romantic memories to be made, there’s literally nothing to miss when the person is gone because it was all very shallow to begin with. So the thought of breaking up with that person doesn’t really matter to you because the person doesn’t really matter to you either.