Years ago, there was a trend when it was a ‘thing’ to make your relationship ‘Facebook official’. No such thing exists now, maybe it’s way too basic. Maybe, people have learnt to keep their personal lives to themselves. I made my relationship status 'Facebook official' a year after being married to my childhood sweetheart. I cannot keep in touch with everyone, so, I find Facebook a pretty cool way to connect with people. When I see a relationship status by one of my friends, it puts a smile on my face. I love to see people happy and nothing gives me more joy than when I see someone finally settling down.
I went out with my girls a few days back and we were having a great time when I bumped into Jessica and her boyfriend, we were pretty close in high school. I had seen her relationship status a few months back which was ‘engaged’, and ended up congratulating her on her engagement. It was such an awkward situation, turns out her ex fiancé cheated on her with two women and she was on her first date after the incident. I think I ruined the evening for her; the last thing she would have wanted to talk about would have been her ex fiancé. The embarrassment I felt was unimaginable!
I realised that making your relationship 'Facebook official' would do more harm than good. People that actually matter already know about whatever is going on in your life. When we share our personal life with people we instantly become the topic of gossip. This means they will think that they now have the power to evaluate our life!
You give stalkers what they want
Okay, many of us have creepy exes, even if we block them they try to invade our privacy by making fake accounts. They keep an eye on us no matter how hard we try to ward them off. Nothing seems to work. When you make your relationship 'Facebook official', you give them exactly the kind of information they are looking for. Many of them might even try to use this information against you!
Unwanted people get involved in your life
Unwanted people get involved in your life. They will start keeping an eye on whatever you do. They will try to become a part of your life even if you don’t want them to be a part of it. A congratulations might seem really nice, but it doesn’t feel good at all when someone drops an inbox to discuss your relation in detail.
We all have those creepy family members who keep spying on us, they won’t let go of a single moment to embarrass us. They have their own weird twisted ideas about how to live life and they want us to live our life by their rules!
You might breakup
Every relationship doesn’t end in ‘happily ever after’, you might break up sooner or later. After a heartbreak, the last thing you want is people asking why and when. Yes, support seems nice but unwanted attention on such a sore topic brings more pain than comfort.
Strangers might misuse your personal data
The number of cyber-crimes is increasing day by day. When you put your personal information on Facebook, many weird people or criminals might try to misuse the information and people might hold you responsible for their actions! This is a serious consequence of going public!
They become jealous
Many people might grow jealous of what you have and might even try to harm your relationship. They will try to bring you down and point out mistakes in your relationship. They will back bite and might even plot against you.
They tell you how to live your life
They think that because they know what’s going on in your life, they have the right to tell you how to live it. This is plain wrong, no one actually knows what’s going on and no one has any right whatsoever to tell you how to live your life.
Facebook official or not, let me tell you it is your life and you can live it however you want to. Do what makes you happy, because life is too short for regrets!
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How socially vocal are you about your relationship? Let me know in the comments below! And as always, stay blessed and keep the love alive!