Ever thought why you always get attached to unavailable men? Here's why.
Ever wonder why you become infatuated with a guy who doesn’t seem worth your time or attention? It does not matter how sweet or generous of a person you might be, sometimes even you might commit some blunders just to wonder in the end how it could happen. We all have our flaws.
More than often, they lead us to do things we wouldn’t otherwise do. In the same pretext, becoming infatuated with men that are out of your league or unavailable is just one of those things that happens as a result of you overlooking some basic facts, underestimating or overestimating the traits he possesses and so on.
Some of you might find men attractive when they appear to be a closed book, while some might find silent figures attractive. Some of you might go for men who are too dominating, while some might find outgoing and friendly guys highly to their liking. Whatever the reasons might be, they often tend to be unlike you, something that you wouldn’t normally go for. Hence the term unavailable is quite safe to use here.
Whatever the reasons might be and however diverse they may be, your zodiac can explain a lot of it based on the traits you possess and how you see others, based on those traits. Here are some reasons you might be attached or tend to become infatuated with men who are unavailable and who, by the end of the day, leave you wondering what you were thinking liking them in the first place.
Aries (March 21 – April 19)
Being an Aries, you love a challenge. May it be in the work sphere or in relationships, you need to put the best of yourself out there and let others know you are the boss. That being said, you love men who appear to be a challenge for you – men who are not available emotionally and physically too, sometimes.
You like to entice them with your own dominating techniques and you will not stop until you get what you want. So you love everything that represents a challenge to your dominating nature. It becomes like a target to you and you will not stop until you get the mark right. You can also read our very famous articles on how to love an Aries and how you should be loved.
Taurus (April 20 – May 20)
Even though you crave a sense of security and stability in a relationship, you still like being in control – which you usually are in most aspects of your life. And this is the exact reason you often times fall for men who are controlling and stronger in their own lives; men who are not really that easy to tackle and who do not open up that easily either.
Their unflinching and resilient resolve is what attracts you the most, and how stable they are in the way they lead their life. However, they are not mostly the type to settle down that quickly, hence failing to give you the sense of security you so badly need. You can also read our another piece on 7 things that make Taurus the most romantic partner ever.
Gemini (May 21 – June 20)
Due to your social and talkative nature, you have a tendency to fall for those who friend zone you first because you approach them as your buddies, someone you feel you can share your stories with and have intellectual debates with. You do not even ask for more than this due to your friendly and bubbly nature all the while you become shy to let them really know how you truly feel about them.
You might want them to express first their feelings for you. If the need comes, you might even lead them on by talking to other men and give them the impression you are interested in them, even though you are not. It will give them the impression you are not looking for anything more. Also read our separate article for Geminies: 5 Easy Ways to Love a Gemini.
Cancer (June 21 – July 22)
Cancers are known for being really guarded, shy and incredibly moody. They love someone who can bring them out of their comfort zone; someone who gives them a reason to shed their outer shell and become more outgoing than shy and someone who puts up with their various mood swings.
They are also attracted towards men who give them the right kind of attention, because they are romantics and they tend to romanticize every big and small thing a man does. They believe in his potential due to their ability to see the best in others. Most of the times, you being to see that good in someone even if that someone is the kind of person who just simply does not care about. That gets in the way of your feelings and leaves you heartbroken at times… and you never see it coming since you were too busy noticing the best in them. Also read 10 things you need to know about a Cancerian woman.
Leo (July 23 – August 22)
Being the bold and the brave, the fearless and the confident, you often fall for the bad boys, the ones who are bold and audacious just like you and who know how to sweep you off your feet. The fact you seem to overlap about them is that they mostly end up being the kind of men who are not serious about you or about getting in a relationship, for that matter.
Here, your over confidence gets in the way and you remain under the impression that since you are such a charmer yourself, there is a chance he will make an exception for you so that becomes your sole reason to stick around longer for him than you should…simply because you believe he will give it a shot and commit to you. You do not give him the benefit of the doubt then. Here are some qualities of Leo women and how you should treat them the right way.
Virgo (August 23 – September 22)
You are known to be great perfectionists, rational thinkers who thoroughly evaluate situations and people. It causes you to fall for guys who are less perfect and organized than you, because you begin to see them as a problem you can perfectly fix.
That in itself is the problem, because you cannot fix and save everyone…especially a man like you. You seeing them as this project that needs amendments is exactly what drives him away from you. When you become infatuated with someone, you want to shape them according to your idea of what a perfect guy should be. That comes off as a turn off to most men, so you know how the matter speaks for itself. Here are 13 things that you should know about loving a Virgo.
Libra (September 23 – October 22)
Because you tend to be a loner at heart, you generally become attracted to men who will not be all in or give you the romance you want. You become attracted to guys who are loners too, same as you; and may even have a phobia when it comes to commitment.
This is because you think that you understand them better than anyone else, mainly because you are like them. And this is where the catch lies too: these guys rarely think about relationships because they are content with loneliness. This fact slips from your mind, overcome with the need to be with them just because they are alone. They might be alone, but they do not qualify as lonely. Also read Why are Libras considered as the best long term partners
Scorpio (October 23 – November 21)
Being a daredevil, you focus more on what others claim you can’t have and what is forbidden. You are always attracted to the wrong men for this reason alone because they are just wrong, represent that dangerous vibe and you want to make them right, or at least get a taste of that so-called forbidden fruit by being with them and living life the way they do.
This whole dilemma is more mental than emotional: the fact that someone is out of your league, emotionally unavailable or “forbidden” for you just makes you want to try harder to be with such a guy. If you’re planning on dating a Scorpio then you should know the 15 Brutally Honest things about Scorpios.
Sagittarius (November 22 – December 21)
You are perhaps the most outgoing people on the planet. Known widely for your spontaneous nature, you are always on the go and so, you like men who are too. And this is exactly where the problem lies in: they tend to be explorers or wanderers who are always traveling or freelancing and living in a different city every month; they never stay in the same place doing the same thing, just like you.
It is more like these guys are married to their work and travels and their adventures and so, a relationship is probably the last thing they think about and want, in the long run. Also read, 10 Ways to Love a Sagittarius.
Capricorn (December 22 – January 19)
You are attracted to a certain class of men, the ones who always leave you hanging and questioning because of the mixed signals they give you, ones who play hard to get. You are attracted to men who are unstable and inconsistent even though you are very stable yourself. You are the type of person who takes a while to open up and trust someone and that is why straightforward men intimidate you.
You like men who are far from an open book. They become like a mystery for you to work at and figure out. But since they are not looking for anything serious, they do not bother making a move on you. Also read, 10 Things to Remember While Loving a Capricorn and if you are in a relationship with a Capricorn read, 10 ways to make a strong relationship with a Capricorn!
Aquarius (January 20 – February 18)
You are a dreamer who truly holds the belief that love conquers all, that love can change the world and heal the broken and cure the weak-hearted, which is why you fall for men who are just wrong for you and believe that you can change them through your love, affection and by investing your time and efforts in them.
You perceive yourself like a healer sent to save them from all the evil in the world and you sometimes don’t even care about heartbreak as long as you were able to touch someone’s life. A lot of men end up taking you for granted due to this reason. In your blind passion to “save them,” you do not see it coming and are left with your head and heart in pieces. Also read, 9 Things to Adopt For a Healthy Relationship with an Aquarius.
Pisces (February 19 – March 20)
They say never go back to what or who hurt you. Somehow, you seem to forget this every time you go back to your ex or the one that got away. You never completely get over anyone you have dated or even had the slightest bit of feelings for and even if it did not work out you believe in second and third chances... something which most people would call sweet, but that is not what it feels like to be in your shoes and having the guy take you for granted. Your kindness and optimism give a chance to the same men who broke your heart to break it again. Because you are too “nice” you cannot refuse or take revenge from them.
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