When a relationship begins, there is this feeling of insecurity which is impossible to push aside. No matter how hard you try to push the uncertainty away, it stays around for some time. It’s never easy opening up to someone for the first time. The idea of getting way too attached with a person, who might not be worth your time, love and care is kind of scary. You might feel petrified the first time you do anything; things can get awkward real quick. You don’t know a person very well and you certainly don’t know how they will react to certain things. A seemingly nice person might react very indifferently under certain circumstances.
This is the era of texting; it saves you the pain of confronting a person or talking to them over the phone. Being kind of shy, texting saved me from a whole a lot of drama. Texting initially helped me develop a steady relationship with my partner without being judged. It helped me understand her better; women, unlike us men, are born to text. Probably they too feel secure when they aren’t being judged. It’s always hard to be smooth at texting, because we men aren’t really texting people. While a woman’s idea of a perfect evening would be to stay home, watch ‘The Notebook’, drink hot chocolate and text her friends, I’d rather watch a game with my boys.
The first time, I texted my partner, she didn’t reply immediately, this left me feeling bewildered. Never before have had I felt so much pressure to be good at texting.
Here is exactly what I wrote, ‘Hi, what’s up? 😀 <3’. SMOOTH, eh?
The number of things that went through my mind:
1. Maybe she is in the toilet.
2. She might be reading her favourite book or magazine in the toilet, okay maybe she is not in the toilet.
3. Maybe she is taking a bath, maybe the kind of hot long baths they show in the movies.
4. She might have asked a stupid friend for advice who might have said that if she replied too quickly she would look desperate, okay cool.