Why The Guy Who Never Texts You Back Actually Isn’t A Jerk

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It’s a horrible thing, I know. I should always make an effort to reply and text people more.

Actually, I have to start replying to people in general whether on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Snapchat. The obligation of a prompt reply always manages to escape me and for that, I am sorry.

To begin with, people must understand that it is never in my intention to upset others by not replying. I’m not trying to be a douchebag whenever I don’t reply.

Secondly, I’m really not a douche-bag at all. I’m a generally nice guy, a gentleman with a very kindhearted demeanor. I never like to think ill of people, and I always try to see others (along with myself) in the best light possible. There perfectly plausible explanations as to why I can’t reply to you right away.

Lastly, there are others who are like me; those who will take forever to reply and they’re probably doing it for the same reasons as me. Just be more patient and understanding of their personality types. We are not bad people. We have our reasons and here they are:

1. Severe Procrastination

Whenever someone doesn’t reply to you, it would be perfectly understandable that you would think that that person is a jerk who doesn’t care about you. That’s not always the case. That person just might be a serial procrastinator. A lot of times, when I receive a text message while I am currently engaged in another activity, I take a mental note in my mind to reply later on. It’s like when we used to be given homework back in high school and we always put off getting it done until the night before it’s due. It’s the same way with replying to text messages for me.

But in this case, there is no deadline to remind me to actually get started on it. So the next time it takes me forever to reply, understand that it isn’t because I don’t care about you. It’s just that I’m a lazy procrastinator who tends to forget things.

2. Perfectionist Attitude

It has always been like this for me ever since I was a little kid. I never like to settle for mediocrity or substandard works. I always like to take my time with whatever I do so as to ensure the integrity and quality of my actions. It carries on over to every single thing I do in my career and in my personal life.

That’s why I don’t necessarily reply right away because I always like to be careful about what I say. There are many factors that I need to consider in my messages like phrasing, emoji placement, length, vocabulary, and so much more. What other people see is just a simple-worded reply but what I see is a carefully written message from the heart. It’s always quality over speed for me regardless of what I’m doing. - Continue reading on the next page