8- He wants you to tell him every single thing:
There are obviously things that he needs to know and similarly, there are things that he doesn’t need to know. These aren’t life or death secrets, you aren’t a serial killer or anything like that but you rather not talk about them. Bottom line is that it has nothing to do with him or the relationship so whether you tell him or not is entirely up to you.
They might be things you’re uncomfortable talking about or things you just don’t think are that important to say. So, you think it’s best not to tell them. However, they won’t have it that way. They’ll constantly nag you about it until you tell them. They think that just because you two are in a relationship, you’re entitled to tell him absolutely everything. In fact, you aren’t entitled to tell him anything unless you feel like it.
These aren’t dire things which have to be said, so him making a big deal out of it is completely unfair to you. Yet, in his mind, these are things he needs to know because it somehow benefits the relationship. When in fact, it just boosts his assurance.
9- Anything you do affects him:
To have someone care deeply enough so as to literally feel your pain is truly a once in a lifetime thing. With that being said, an insecure boyfriend will take this to unimaginable heights. He’ll literally act like any step you take makes an impact on his life. When in fact, it hasn’t got the slightest thing to do with him!
This is just him trying to feel ‘close’ to you. You can actually tell him all you want that it’s making you feel uncomfortable, but he won’t budge. The thing with an insecure boyfriend is that it requires some real deep convincing to get them to accept facts. Other than that, they’ll continue on in their made-up scenarios acting like that’s the life their living even though it’s way too far from reality to ever be possible.
You do something really small and he’ll act like it changed his life completely. He takes everything to heart and that’s the thing holding him back from a happy relationship. Even though he’ll be happy on some days, on other days he’ll feel like everything is crumbling and he needs to do something really dire in order to fix it. In reality, it’ll be nothing.
10- He’s overly sensitive:
Not just talking about the relationship here, he’s just sensitive in general. Let me explain insecurities to you: feeling like you’re never good enough. This is triggered by things people have said or done to you multiple times or once so severely that it leaves a mark on you. To think that because he’s insecure and nagging you, you should break up with him right away will never make you the smarter person.
It just means that you’re being insensitive to his sensitivity. He can’t help that someone stomped his heart before and now he needs you to fix it back. He can have his way and that might be annoying for some, but hey you’re the one who told him that you’ll be there for him through thick or thin.
The fact is that he isn’t like that ALL the time. He’s like that on some occasions. Life is like that, it goes from good to bad and back to good in seconds. Your relationship is a part of your life so obviously it’ll have it is ups and downs. The key is to make your partner feel like it’s okay. This is a way to help them. Besides, you love them.
She may have promised to be through it all through thick and thin with him, but she is also not his go-to, always on-call therapist. Insecurities that deeply or negatively affect other people or her especially need the bonafide assistance of a professional, not her attempting to bungle through a solution while being simultaneously romantically tangled with him.