To put it bluntly, men aren’t necessarily known to be the more observant of the two genders. Of course, that isn’t to say that they are virtually incapable of absorbing vital information in their lives at all. On the contrary, men can be very attentive when it suits them. But that’s just the thing: they only pay attention whenever it suits them. They don’t really like to pay attention to the things that interest them; especially when it comes to their women.
A lot of women are a little too self-conscious around their men. They make the mistake of believing that men actually pay attention to the fact that they repeat outfits every once in a while or that their makeup is terribly executed. That is rarely ever the case. Again, ladies, it’s important for you to remember that men are only observant of the things that really matter to them.
A lot of things that are a source of stress, worry, and insecurity in your life may not necessarily matter much to your man. You are bringing a lot of unnecessary stress upon yourself by thinking that your man is judging you for something when in reality, he just doesn’t care. You have to understand that you are your own worst critic all the time.
You are the quickest one to point out your own personal imperfections. You are the one who is going to judge yourself most harshly. Don’t fall into the trap of just assuming your man will judge you the way that you choose to judge yourself. That is rarely ever the case. Here are a few simple examples of things that you care too much about even though your man doesn’t really notice them.
1. Your butt’s stretch marks.
Men like girls’ butts. There’s just no denying it. It doesn’t matter how flawed you think you’re but is. Your man just won’t care. You just have to carry yourself with confidence, and he’s going to get turned on. Remember that men always respond well to confidence.
2. Your makeup prowess.
Men don’t really care about how on-point your eyeliner game is. They won’t notice just how strong your contouring is going to be. They really won’t pay much attention to whether your choice of blush matches the shade of your lipstick. These are just details that are going to escape your man’s attention even though they are practically life and death for you.
3. Your choice of food at a restaurant.
Go ahead and order that burger with a side of fries if you want. Stop being so self-conscious about what you order around your man. If he truly loved you, he wouldn’t really make a big deal about you wanting to indulge every once in a while.
4. Your extra pounds.
You are allowed to gain a pound or two every once in a while. While it’s important for you to keep physically fit for the sake of your health, you shouldn’t treat it so seriously. It’s okay for you to lay off and let yourself go sometimes. Gaining a pound or two isn’t going to be the end of the world.
5. Your choice of shoes.
Men don’t pay attention to your shoes unless you choose to rock those new Jordans or Boosts. If you’re just breaking your brain trying to figure out what stilettos you are going to be sporting that night, then you should know that you are the only one who really cares.
6. Your looks as you’re doing it in bed.
Know that during sex, a lot of times, a man is going to be concerned about making himself happy and giving you pleasure at the same time. He won’t be so concerned about whether your hair is on point or whether the lighting really highlights the beauty of your face. Those are trivial matters when having sex.
7. Your wrinkle on your forehead.
You are just going to bring about another wrinkle on your forehead if you keep stressing about the wrinkle that you already have. Your man won’t notice it at all. In fact, minor changes in your looks will probably go unnoticed to him a lot of the time. If he is engaged in a truly loving relationship with you, looks won’t matter all that much.
8. Your asymmetrical breasts.
They’re breasts. He’s going to love them whether they’re symmetrical or not. Don’t forget that at the end of the day, he’s still a guy.
9. The undyed roots of your hair.
Worried about having the undyed roots of your hair showing? Don’t stress. Your man doesn’t give a damn about it. It’s highly likely that he would be more worried about his own hair than he would be about yours.
10. Your eyebrow game.
Congratulations on having a strong eyebrow game. But you should know that even though your eyebrows are completely on fleek, it’s not necessarily something that your man will be enthused by. Just as long as you look presentable, he won’t really care all that much.
Smh… Keep thinking that men aren’t observant.
We just aren’t as shallow as women. But we do notice all this sh!t. We just don’t say anything to you about it. ?
Shoes, especially high heel shoes are one of the first things I notice. No flip flops, no dirty tennis shoes, no broken down dirty heels. A good set of heels does wonders for a cute butt.
Men are more observant than some people think. They may not always know how to wear makeup, and maybe they don’t know what perfume their girlfriend had on that day (there could be hundreds of those in multiple editions) And they sure as anything won’t give birth like a woman would. However, anyone who can memorize their favorite sports team roster by name, number, and current teams Is very observant. Anyone who has a tool to fix almost anything but still has to find it is very observant. Or memorizing just a bunch of random things before someone asks you to explain it all can be very observant. The idea that men basically have to write a detailed report on why they are observant and get a petition signed by everyone so they can communicate it just to ATTEMPT to prove they are observant is beyond me. And a man who is correct is typically on trial if they even suggest they might be correct about anything, anything other than being wrong. So sometimes there are double standards no matter who it is or what the gender or identity. Men are seen as simple people, unless you are a man!
How about the men who simply just stare at you like they’re going to kill you. I see it every time and it’s hard to tell if he’s just a creep or simply lacks social skills. I don’t give him any opportunities to approach.