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10 Things Men Find Highly Unattractive in Women

Ethan Collyer Ethan Collyer | August 25, 2023 | 3 min read

We know that guys pay attention to looks, but did you know there are things that they don’t like in women? If you want to impress guys, avoid these things.

Here are ten things guys find unattractive in women and how to fix them. Every guy is different, so they might not all agree on what they like. But there are some things most guys don’t like. If you want to know what they are, keep reading for a list of things guys find unattractive in women.

1. Too Much Makeup

Wearing too much makeup might make some men feel like they can’t see the real you. Simple and natural looks often show confidence and comfort in your own skin. When makeup is too heavy, it can be a distraction from your natural beauty and personality.

2. Poor Personal Hygiene

Taking care of yourself is important, as it shows you respect your own body and the people around you. Not keeping up with basic hygiene like regular showers, brushing teeth, or fresh clothes might give off a negative impression. A clean and fresh appearance generally appeals to everyone.

3. Nagging

Constantly complaining or nagging about small things can create tension and stress in any relationship. Men, like anyone else, appreciate open communication, but too much nagging can feel overwhelming. It’s important to find a balance and address concerns calmly and constructively.

4. Being Too Touchy in Public

Public displays of affection are fine, but excessive touching or intimate behavior in public places might make some men uncomfortable. It’s good to be aware of the surroundings and make sure both partners are comfortable with the level of physical affection shown in different settings.

5. Constant Comparisons with an ex-partner

If you keep on comparing your relationship to others or your past relationships, it can make men feel insecure and unappreciated. Each relationship is unique, and you should focus on the positive aspects of your current relationship and its strengths rather than making comparisons with your exes or other people. When evaluating your feelings, it may help to identify questions to consider about your ex that can provide clarity on your current emotions. Reflecting on what you learned from past experiences can also pave the way for growth in your new relationship. Ultimately, understanding your history can empower you to build a stronger connection moving forward.

6. Fighting in Public

Arguments are a normal part of any relationship, but having heated fights in public can be embarrassing and uncomfortable for everyone involved. Keeping disagreements private allows for better communication and maintains a respectful image in front of others.

7. Being Overly Dependent

While support is important, being overly dependent on a partner for every little thing can feel burdensome. Men generally admire self-sufficiency and a partner who has her own interests, activities, and can handle her own responsibilities.

8. Only Having Friends of the Opposite Gender

Having a diverse group of friends is healthy, and when a woman only has friends of the opposite intimacy, it might raise questions or concerns for some men. It’s important to have a variety of friendships, regardless of gender, to show that you can connect with different people.

9. Playing Mind Games

Manipulative behavior or playing mind games can create confusion and frustration in relationships. Honesty and open communication are important for all relationships to succeed. Men appreciate straightforward behavior and a clear understanding of each other's intentions.

10. Excessive Self-Centeredness

Being overly focused on yourself without considering others your partner’s feelings or needs can be off-putting. Men generally appreciate a partner who shows genuine interest in their thoughts and feelings, creating a sense of mutual care and understanding.

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Curious to know what you think! Have you experienced these turn-offs? Share your thoughts in the comments below.


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Nick · January 28, 2026

When they say no to any affection at any time.The price for them is the person asking for affection will find it elsewhere that is my truth as is everyone.

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Shanteil · February 14, 2026

Well today is Valentine’s Day and I’m staying at my mother’s place only until the end of February moving back to Vancouver for March 1st and I know my boyfriend and myself both can get pretty busy with work and other things, but it’s like he forgot it’s even Valentine’s DayπŸ’”πŸ˜ž

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Nora mcClymer · February 27, 2026

Foodie at heart

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Ethan is a relationship coach and writer based in Chicago. He spent years helping people navigate the emotional complexities of modern dating, commitment, and communication before turning to writing. His style is direct, practical, and free of clichΓ©s. He covers everything from why people pull away to how to be the partner your person actually needs. Off the clock, he is a football obsessive and a decent amateur cook.