Some times, just some times, do something amazing and surprise us. It doesn’t have to cost a lot of money, it about the thought you put in to bring a smile on our face. It’s really more about the effort that you put into any gesture that you do for me. Sure, it’s so easy to go to a store and buy something expensive which you know that I would like. That isn’t to say that we don’t appreciate these lavish and luxurious gifts. We know that you have to work hard at your job to be able to afford these things. All that we’re saying is that gifts don’t always have to be so expensive.
We would love random surprises that come from the heart and don’t make a huge dent on your bank account. Come home with a bouquet of flowers on a random Wednesday. Fix me a delicious dinner by surprise just because you know how tired I can get from work. Write me a love letter and leave it someplace you know I would be able to find it. It’s little gestures like these that go a really long way with regards to affection and love between the two of us. I would really appreciate any of that extra effort you provide. It further assures me that your love for me is real and that I don’t have to doubt any of it.
7. Don’t lie
Sh*t on the bedsheet and tell us, we can live with that, but don’t lie. Not only is it extremely immoral to tell lies. It makes us question the status of our relationship with you. It makes us feel guilty for not giving you enough space and damages the bond of trust we share with you, so don’t just don’t lie. Never ever lie to me. I can’t accurately express in words just how much this matters to me. Honesty is one of, if not the most important thing when it comes to building trust in a relationship.
The moment that I discover that you lie to me, you put everything that you have to say up for question. I will no longer find myself just automatically trusting you. Everything that you will have to say to me after you lie is something that I will come to doubt. And when there is too much doubt in a relationship, it can be really harmful. When there is no trust in the relationship, there is no real love. This is why I must emphasize just how important it is for you to never lie to me. It doesn’t matter how difficult it is for you to open up to me about something. If it’s the truth, then it really needs to come out into the open. I need you to be brave enough to open up to me about anything. More importantly, I need you to trust me with the truth no matter how difficult it might be to do so.
8. Share the load
Let us help you out, morally, financially and emotionally. Let us support you, there is no shame in asking your partner for help when you need it. You have got to share the load. There’s a reason why the female empowerment movement is vastly gaining ground these days. Part of gender equality isn’t just about women getting to do the same things that men do. It’s also about men being empowered to express their vulnerability and their weaknesses towards women. We are all human beings and we all have shortcomings. Men shouldn’t have to feel like they should be immune to that.
In this world, men should still feel as if they are allowed to showcase their weaknesses. If you ever need help with anything, then don’t be afraid to come out and say it. After all, this is a partnership and I’m always going to have your back no matter what. Honestly, I love you and I would relish at any opportunity to make your life easier and happier. I would jump on any chance I can get to make sure that you always feel more comfortable whenever you are with me. Know that I am ready to be here for you whenever you need me. It’s just a matter of you opening up and telling me that you need my help with something.
9. Don’t be a baby
You know you will always be our baby, but don’t be a baby all the time.
Most of the time, we need a man. A fully functional grown man, who can make his own decisions and has the strength to take initiative, you know we will always be there to spoil you. At the end of the day, we’re going to pamper you to the best of our abilities. We are always going to do our part in making sure that you feel cared for and catered to. I would never want you to feel as if I don’t have your feelings in mind. I am always going to hold your feelings to high regard.
Whenever you’re feeling down and needy, I’m going to try my best to be there for you. However, I also need you to grow up and be mature whenever necessary. I need you to be strong. I need you to be the solid foundation on which I would live my life. I need you to be as sturdy as a rock. You can’t be immature when dealing with your problems and when you’re facing challenges. Yes, there is room for failure and development. But there should be no room for immaturity at all. If you really want to make things work with me, then you can’t be immature about it. You can’t be a baby. Remember that it takes two responsible adults to make healthy mature relationship work. We would never be able to last if you’re just going to act like a kid.
10. Don’t think we are stupid
We are not stupid, just because we are women things are no different. Honestly, we deal with much more than you guys do. So, respect us and our decisions. Okay, so I know that I’m not always going to make the right decisions in life. In fact, I’m probably going to screw up at a lot of the things that I want to try. However, that shouldn’t be a reason for you to ever assume that I’m an idiot. I have many redeeming qualities and I know for sure that there is so much more to my personality than my mistakes.
I have so much to offer the world and it would be insulting for you to think of me as a stupid imbecile who is incapable of getting anything done. At the end of the day, it all boils down to respect. Do you respect me enough to actually acknowledge that I am an independent and autonomous person who is capable of thinking for herself? Also, it comes down to trust. Do you trust me to be able to make the right decisions and call the shots in this relationship from time to time? It’s important to me that you understand where I am coming from and what you don’t just automatically dismiss whatever I might have to say.