You are heavy and it’s hard to wake you up once you are asleep and impossible to physically move you. We need our teddy bear to hug us and make us feel protected every night. It’s the best feeling in the world. First of all, we have a perfectly comfortable bed in the bedroom that we can use for sleeping. So, why would you want to subject yourself to an uncomfortable couch in the living room? Also, I sleep on the bed. Why would you ever want to sleep alone when you have the opportunity to drift off into a deep sleep together with me? But to be frank about it, I’m just clingy.
Honestly, I just love the feeling of being able to embrace you in the middle of the night whenever I’m feeling cold. There is just a very different and distinct kind of coziness that I get whenever I’m with you on the bed. It’s a comfort and coziness that no kind of pillow would ever be able to replicate. I’m always going to hope that you sleep with me on the bed for those reasons. But ultimately, it also comes down to the idea of getting to wake up beside you. The one thing that’s more beautiful than going to sleep with someone you love is waking up next to the person you love. So, please just stop sleeping on the couch and come cozy up next to us in the bedroom.
12. Leave space on the bed
Leave some space in the bed for us, we exist too you know. Sometimes we seriously consider pushing you off the bed. Okay, so we already talked about how much I love having you on the bed and how you should stop sleeping on the couch. However, that doesn’t mean that you should get full ownership of the entire bed. I want to be comfortable too! I understand that as women, we tend to be smaller and daintier than you. As men, you’re going to take up more space because you’re much bigger than us.
However, be mindful. We need space on the bed too. We also want to feel like we have a safe space where we can sleep soundly at night. We don’t want to have to go to sleep fearing for our lives in case you ever end up pushing us off the bed. Yes, we can cuddle. In fact, we would really love it if you spoon us to sleep every night. But please also respect the fact that we need a space in the bed of our own as well. We need you to please be respectful enough to be mindful of our safety whenever we’re sleeping. Yes, we SHARE a bed. This means that I should have a space in it too.
13. Don’t hurt our self-esteem
Just because you earn more than we do doesn’t mean you have the right to demean us. If you had to hire a maid for everything we do for you, you’d be broke! Typically, it’s the guy who goes out and earns a living for the household and the family. That’s how it used to be in a traditional sense. However, these days, more and more women have careers of their own and are perfectly capable of being the ones who provide for the family. Whatever the case, money is irrelevant when it comes to basic human decency and respect.
Regardless of how much money I contribute to this family, you should never do or say anything that would put me down or heart my self-esteem. My self-worth shouldn’t be tied to how many dollars I have in my bank account or how many zeroes there are on my paycheck. When you love me, you love who I am as a person and not just all of the perks that come with me. You don’t have the right to demean me or make me feel as if I’m less valuable than you are because of everything that you bring to the table. We should be appreciative of each other’s contributions. Yes, there is always room for criticism when it comes to growth. But that doesn’t give you a free pass to just insult me for the sake of doing so.
14. We may pretend to be superwomen but give us the benefit of doubt
Okay, so we are very strong and everything but remember, we are only human. We strive hard to meet your expectations but understand we have our off days and sometimes we fail. Whenever that happens, we don’t want you to scold us. Whenever we fall short of your expectations, we don’t want to be on the receiving end of snide remarks or any sass on your part. On the contrary, we need your love and your compassion more than ever. Sure, I can get really proud at times. In fact, I’m aware that I can let my pride get the best of me. However, I also acknowledge that I am human and that I’m not always going to be able to back up everything that I say. And whenever that’s the case, please don’t be too hard on me.
Instead, encourage me and try to give me perspective on the matter. Help me learn from my mistakes and grow into the person that I’m supposed to be. We should be lifting each other up and not tearing one another down. I need you to support me both in my successes and in my failures as well. After all, we are both only human and we both have our imperfections. Our love and support should still persist in spite of these lapses of judgment or imperfections that we have.
15. Blame it on the hormones if we have a nervous breakdowns
We literally have no control over ourselves during that time of the month, so please bear with us. Pamper us; get us lots of food and chocolate! We promise to make it up to you and love you better once our hormones are back to normal. Sure, it might seem unfair to you that the way that your body is wired doesn’t give you an excuse to lash out or act irrationally with your feelings. Of course, we totally get that. But science has already confirmed that overreactions due to hormones are a real thing.
And it’s not just a struggle for you. Trust us. It’s a real struggle for us as well to have to deal with stupid emotions that come out of nowhere. It can be really exhausting having all of these feelings during particular times of the month. It can also get really overwhelming. So, instead of piling onto that emotional load that we’re left to deal with, try to be a little more supportive instead. It would go a long way in helping make us feel better about the situations that we are in. Of course, it would also really help to know that we have someone who is being sane and emotionally sound whenever our hormones are going on overdrive. You need to be the one who has the voice of reason and understanding in the relationship during these moments.