Are you being taken advantage of?
Never downplay the importance of being in a relationship with another person. It’s always going to be a big deal. That’s why it is never unreasonable for you to want your partner to actually acknowledge your importance in his/her life. Of course, that doesn’t mean you are supposed to disengage yourself from the other facets of your life like work, family, or health. But you should always be able to prioritize your relationship whenever appropriate. After all, we are all looking for love in this life, and we must always be careful to not let it slip from our hands whenever he grabs it.
If you fail to prioritize your partner or your relationship, then there is a big chance you are letting love slip right from your fingertips. Of course, there is a multitude of possible reasons as to why you would be deprioritizing your partner. Perhaps, you really just don’t have enough time in the day. Maybe you just don’t really love your partner that much. Some reasons are more valid than others, but at the end of the day, it all comes down to how much you’re just willing to give to the relationship.
There may be a time wherein you find yourself feeling neglected and deprioritized in a relationship. That’s perfectly normal. You just have to be able to call your partner out on it. You have to be able to talk things out. You have to decide what’s best for you as a couple and as individuals. If you are able to make adjustments, then that’s great. If not, well, the rest is up to you. So how do you know that you aren’t being made a priority in the life of your partner? Well, here are a few signs that can help you out.
1. They never show up on time.
They don’t value your time as much as they value theirs. If you really prioritize someone, you would know that their time is important to them. You wouldn’t want to be wasting it whether deliberately or incidentally. If the tardiness for dates and appointments is a regular occurrence, then perhaps your time just really isn’t a priority to your partner.
2. They don’t put much meaning into your special occasions.
Anniversaries? Big deal. Birthdays? Oh, okay, here’s a cake. Yeah. There isn’t really much hoopla about your special occasions. Your partner treats it as any other day because maybe, you’re probably just like any other person. You aren’t necessarily a priority so these dates shouldn’t be a priority either.
3. You don’t feel much different from when you were still single.
If you’re in a relationship and yet it still feels like you’re single, then that is a huge red flag right there. What’s the point of being in a relationship that still makes you feel like you’re alone in the world? It means that your partner just doesn’t value whatever expectations you have for the relationship in general.
4. You are constantly feeling disappointed.
Disappointment is a silent killer in even the strongest kinds of relationships. If your partner is constantly disappointing you, then that means your wants and needs in the relationships are never being met. It means that your partner just doesn’t hold your feelings about the relationship to high regard. It means your partner is okay with the fact that you get hurt every once in a while. – Continue reading on the next page
5. They don’t make an effort to make you happy.
Happiness is what we all look for in life. If your partner fails to make you happy, is this really a relationship still worth fighting for? People who prioritize their partners would do whatever it takes to make their partners happy. They would go to the moon and back just to put a smile on their partners’ faces. If your partner doesn’t seem to be putting much work into making you happy, then maybe your happiness just isn’t a priority at the moment.
6. They don’t find time for you.
You are never the winner when it comes to time. Your partner would rather spend more time doing work. Your partner would rather be going to the gym than on a date with you. Your partner would rather watch TV than talk to you. These are blatant signs of a person being deprioritized.
7. You don’t have a couple fights.
Couples who fight are couples who really care about one another. They are the kinds of couples who want to see conflicts and disagreements through to the end. They fight because they want to be able to understand one another better. So if you’re a couple who just chooses to suppress fights and disagreements, then there is a problem there. It means that you aren’t willing to hear what the other side has to say.
8. You constantly feel objectified.
If your partner is only using you for your body, then that is objectification at its finest. You are more than your body. You have feelings, emotions, goals, dreams, and opinions. If your partner doesn’t recognize these aspects of your personality, then maybe you just aren’t as important as you think you are in the eyes of your partner.
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