From best friends to lovers.
Thanks to all the fairytale stories and the romantic movies that have been shoved down our throats as a collective audience, a lot of us will tend to have very skewed and sketchy perceptions of what love really is. A lot of us have been exposed to so many fictional narratives about two people just being meant for one another; how they are soulmates. And it just so happens that there are so many of us who aren’t going to be as lucky as others. Some people are going to have to wait a very long time before they can meet their soulmate at the perfect moment. And sometimes, these people aren’t going to be so patient. And so they will end up settling out of fear of spending the rest of their life alone.
But if you look all around you, there are plenty of relationships that just prove that soulmates are a very real thing. There are so many couples with great chemistry and rapport. They have this immense and deep emotional connection to each other that you wouldn’t be able to believe if you weren’t witnessing it for yourself.
There are those of us who meet our soulmates and we let them go just because we fail to recognize that they were our soulmates to begin with. Maybe we didn’t fight hard enough for them. Maybe the timing wasn’t right. Or maybe we just didn’t buy into the whole soulmate narrative and we grew complacent thinking that we would find someone better.
Well, it’s important that when you find your soulmate, you never let them go. You do everything in your power to keep them in your life. When you find your soulmate, you have to fight with all of your might to make your relationship work. And you’re only going to realize just how valuable they are to you once you let time take its natural course with the both of you.
So how do you identify your soulmate when you see them? How can you know for sure that the person that you’re with is your actual soulmate? Well, you just have to stay vigilant. You have to be able to read between the lines. You have to have a great attention for detail. If a lot of the signs that are listed on here happen to apply to your partner, then congratulations, you have found your soulmate.
1. You are the best of friends.
A solid friendship is always going to serve as the foundation for a solid relationship. And if you feel like you’re best friends with your partner, then it’s highly likely that you’re soulmates. You just connect with each other in ways that you can’t with other people.
2. You have a natural mutual respect between the two of you.
Of course, when there is a natural respect between the two of you, then that’s a good sign that you’re just made for one another. You would never want to do anything to hurt or demean your partner.
3. You share similar values and similar goals for the future.
You both envision the same future for yourselves as individuals and your relationships. You also carry similar principles which will make it easier for you to come to decisions about your lives together.
4. You push one another to be better.
As soulmates, you are always going to motivate and challenge one another. And it’s only because you both believe in each other’s potential and you would never want your partner to settle for a life of mediocrity.
5. You both are willing to do whatever it takes to make the relationship work.
True soulmates aren’t those people who are in relationships that don’t have problems. True soulmates are those people who take on their problems head on. They are the ones who work really hard to save their love.
6. You don’t need to be together, but you make that choice to be with one another.
You aren’t really codependent. You don’t necessarily NEED to be in a relationship with each other. You are both your own persons. But you make that conscious choice to always be with one another every day that you stay together.
7. You both feel comfortable with just being your natural selves whenever you’re together.
Being with your soulmate is a lot like being with a mirror of yourself. And when that happens, you can feel totally at ease of just letting your true self emerge from the shadows. You won’t feel compelled to put on a mask or act in a way that feels unnatural.
8. Your instincts are telling you that they’re the one.
Learn to trust your gut. Your instincts are there for a reason. They’re there to help lead you on the right path. They’re there to help you make the right decision. Your instincts are there for when your reason and your emotions will fail you.
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