Every other day, we come across a post on Facebook with a couple busy publicly shaming each other and with no remorse whatsoever. I don’t know, maybe they do so for the fun of it. Screenshots are taken and they become viral. Memes are made and, according to me, lives are destroyed. It’s not funny to take your personal matters to social media unless it is something that would affect the public and people need to be warned.
For example, the given person might have been a criminal, and then it would be your responsibility to warn people around you but don’t go to Facebook for petty matters. I don’t remember once that my partner shamed me on social media in any way. Any person who takes their problems to social media looks like a maniac, here are a list of things you should consider next time you take your problems to social media.
The person you targeted gets disgraced but so do you
Okay, so the next time you decide to take a fight to Facebook, keep in mind that it is your Facebook. Your account is a reflection of who you are in real life. If people see you handling situations in such a poor way, they will have things to say about you and most of them won’t be nice.
It has a negative impact on the people in your account. Remember. when you point one finger on someone, three fingers point right back at you. Imagine you meet this really nice guy who you later on ends up adding on Facebook, when he sees the shaming carried out by you he will immediately be intimidated by it. You will instantly become non-girlfriend material! – Continue reading on next page
People who love you get affected
You have friends and family on Facebook, people who love and care for you. When you react in such an irresponsible manner, they will feel concerned about your wellbeing. You might have younger people on your Facebook as well who might end up making an example out of you. Remember, this is not what you want. Yes, support of loved ones is always a good thing in times of distress but you don’t want them all to be worried.
You and your personal life gets exposed to way to many people on Facebook
If someone ends up taking a screenshot or sharing the post you are prone to get exposed to way too many unknown people, be prepared to receive creepy messages from these strangers. Remember, you will get over the grief but the world will not let it go, a viral post takes well about a year to stop being discussedВ – Continue reading on next page
You let the people know that the relationship wasn’t strong to begin with
When you rant about what your partner did to you, you basically tell people that the element of respect never existed. Even if my partner did cheat on me or did something to really hurt me, I would keep it between us for all the times he did right by me. Of course, you don’t randomly start dating anybody; you make a person a part of your life when they treat you with love, respect and care. When you publicly humiliate someone, you let people know that you both had no trust and respect to begin with and this was just the last push to an already falling wall.
You end scaring the person you humiliated for life
We all make mistakes that we aren’t proud of, it’s fine to let a person know that they did wrong to you but when you make it public the stigma is going to travel with them long after they have sobered out. Your ex-partner might actually be sorry!
You let people know that you too had issues
Sometimes, karma ends up biting you in the ass. You too get exposed with your partner, no one is a saint and when you call out someone publicly, people end up snitching on you too.В – Continue reading on next page
The person might end up keeping a grudge
The person you humiliated may end up keeping a grudge and might even take revenge. This is an extreme approach to this situation but you should keep in mind every bad thing that could happen.
You look like a desperate psychopath
You look like a prisoner escaped from a mental asylum when you take your issues to Facebook, there are better ways to solve a problem than to create so much drama. Talking things out may even save your dying relationship. The only thing Facebook will do is make matters worse.
Publicly shaming someone isn’t going to do you or the other person any good; it is the most destructive form of revenge there is. So the next time you decide to take matters to Facebook, think again!
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What do you think about taking your problems to Facebook? Let me know in the comments below. And as always, stay blessed the keep the love alive!