Ever wonder why you’ve never been in love? There’s nothing wrong with you.
Every person is different from the other, yet that one thing which makes us all the same is our resilient need and urge to love and be loved. While it may not be all rainbows and sunshine, for some of us, falling in love and then staying in it is the hardest things to do of all. Many people look for love without knowing they have already found it; many reject it without knowing they do not have that kind of luxury and yet still others find it exceptionally hard to be in love not because of the difficulties they have to face in the name of love but because of themselves, their inherent nature.
No one can change who they are and there is only so much you can run away from the person you really are. That being said, some people find it hard to fall in love because of their certain personality traits that prove to be coming in the way of them being in love for long enough.
Much like other aspects of life, this aspect is also looked upon, analyzed and explained well enough by astrology. According to its rules and such, every zodiac sign has some unique points of view which, when it comes to matters of the heart, just do not let them belet them fall in love, stay in love and live it fully.
It is not the way these signs feel but just the way they are which makes it very hard for them to love and be loved. It might be the over analytical and over critical nature of a Virgo, or the closed up nature of a Cancer; the ego of a Leo or the spontaneous approach of a Sagittarius to subtle matters in love, which place them in a difficult position to be in love for a considerable amount of time.
Following are some major reasons as to why the zodiac signs cannot fall in love or stay in it, in case they already have given their hearts to another. Even though astrology looks at these reasons in-depth, they are not the absolute end to these signs and there is always more than meets the eye so it doesn’t just end here. Love is a complex issue, and it means different things to different people. Therefore, the reasons some exhibit of never sailing in that ship are different and vast.
(March 21st to April 19th)
Freedom means a great deal to Aries. Being born under this sign, you most likely expect being in love and being all independent and free to be mutually exclusive. When in reality, if you are in love with the right person and for the right reasons instead of it being a too one-sided thing then you will indeed experience all the colors and feels of independency all the while being fully committed to the one you love.
This perception of exclusiveness of freedom and being in love often makes it hard for an Aries to fall in love. You can also read our very famous articles on how to love an Aries and how you should be loved.
(April 20th to May 21st)
When a Taurus does not feel the same sense of stability coming from the one they have set their heart on, love seems like a far-fetched thing to them then. The moment you feel that the other person is not falling for you at the same pace, you will think at the back of your about whether or not you will obtain that resilient sense of stability from them in the long run.
Due to this, you back out at the last moment and falling in love as well as being in love becomes very hard for you. Furthermore, when a Taurus sees betrayal coming from the other end, they instantly close up about their feelings and you will never get to hear about their side of the story in case of love. They dislike it the most when their sympathy is taken for granted and so, before anyone walks all over their heart, they walk away themselves. You can also read our another piece on 7 things that make Taurus the most romantic partner ever.
(May 22nd to June 21st)
Gemini are well-known for having dual personalities. That being said, they are very indecisive when it comes to things that matter most especially in the matters of the heart. Once they have moved on from the initial, infatuation stage of their relationship to the deeper one, they begin to have serious doubts and second thoughts about the whole thing.
They fear if the other person will indeed be able to fall in love with their real self, whether the relationship will last long enough and sometimes it is the plain fear of living up the expectations of the one they love which drives a Gemini further from the love pool, making it hard for them to give their heart to another. Also read our separate article for Geminies: 5 Easy Ways to Love a Gemini.
(June 22nd to July 22nd)
Those born under the sign of the crab value their solitude very much; their alone time in the safety of their shells much like the crab. So they need a pretty good reason to lay down their guard and come out of that shell.
Once they do, and the one they love does not make their intentions and feelings clear to them, Cancerians assume the worst and sulk back in their shell, cutting things off with that person before they can hurt them. They then find it hard to come back out again, to believe in love once again. Giving it another shot feels exceptionally hard to them. Also read 10 things you need to know about a Cancerian woman.
(July 23rd to August 22nd)
Because of their big egotistical nature, Leos find it very hard to admit it to both themselves and the other person about their feelings. They fear their feelings will be taken for granted and manipulated and walking on the road of love feels like a chance too risky to take. What is more is that Leos are also very stubborn, which makes them all the more defiant to admit to their feelings. Here are some qualities of Leo women and how you should treat them the right way.
(August 23rd to September 22nd)
Having a overcritical nature especially about themselves, a Virgo is most likely to hide their feelings before something even gets serious. They keep thinking what if the other person does not even like them that much, or does not want the same things as they do.
Because of this constant critical approach towards their own feelings, Virgos generally find it hard to fall in love and staying in it too, once it has already begin. Furthermore, you always assume that the person you love might not even be that interested in you, or that they would lose interest if they got to know you on that deeper level. That makes falling in love/being in love harder for you. Here are 13 things that you should know about loving a Virgo.
(September 23rd to October 22nd)
You have a slight tough of romanticism, if not anything else. That being said, you are very intrigued by things like the romantic and addictive kind of story-centered version of love. That is why you are mostly not able to reconcile those expectations with actual, real and everyday kinds of relationships that might actually lead to something serious. If you are in love with Libra then read 10 truths about loving a Libra and you can also read Why are Libras considered as the best long term partners.
(October 23rd to November 22nd)
Born with a natural flare of taking things fast instead of going with the flow and taking things slow, you seem to be convinced that a relationship ought to develop at regular top speeds if it has any hopes of surviving the test of time and fate. Going through the natural, slow and steady pace of things comes very hard to a Scorpio.
Some might call their love a desperate kind of love. Yet this hyper state when it comes to matters of the heart is not mostly accepted by the other person and so, the Scorpio considers staying away from love altogether. Also, the controlling nature of a Scorpio makes them hesitant to open up about their feelings because they realize the other person might not let them be the kings and queens of the broken scenes like they want to and so, they choose to stay on the sidelines and not take the road of love at all. If you’re planning on dating a Scorpio then you should know the 15 Brutally Honest things about Scorpios.
(November 23rd to December 21st)
You can be excessively positive and hopeful, not to mention your overly spontaneous nature towards everything in life. You sometimes become arrogant to the fact that the little ups and downs that often arise in the beginning of a relationship and also continue throughout it will most often take care of themselves, rather than consciously putting in the effort to work on things with you one you are committed to so that you can keep trying to move forward in your relationship.
That sort of spontaneous attitude makes you overlook some major as well as minor details about your partner and so, being in love becomes hard. Also read, 10 Ways to Love a Sagittarius.
(December 22nd to January 20th)
You certainly possess an open and lighthearted nature about you and yet, you do not trust anyone enough that easily and swiftly to let them break through your tough exterior and get to know this side of you the side ready to open your heart up to love and acceptance. Working towards something that you are sure will take you to a definitive goal means more to you than risking everything you are in the name of love which, as we all know very, is blind after all. 10 Things to Remember While Loving a Capricorn and if you are in a relationship with a Capricorn read, 10 ways to make a strong relationship with a Capricorn!
(January 21st to February 18th)
Born under this sign, you most often like to rule and to have the upper hand at things including relationships. Setting your own space in a relationship without letting the other person intrude it has paramount importance to you.
So you begin to think that maintaining that sort of detached and relaxed attitude in your relationship will allow you to keep that upper hand, when in fact all it actually does is prevent you from having any chance of actually connecting with your partner on a deeper, intimate level. And the ties of love only get stronger when every feeling and thought is present out in the open. Also read, 9 Things to Adopt For a Healthy Relationship with an Aquarius.
(February 19th to March 20th)
Pisceans are huge romantics. Their beliefs about love can sometimes be too idealistic. While it is all great at first to have high hopes and standards for the person you are committed to yet when it starts to resemble a list of qualifications that your partner must have without any exceptional cases, it pointedly lessens your odds of finding that right person, or of finding anyone at all, one with whom staying in love would be easy. Except that it never is. Pisceans have a unique outlook of life and reality in general. Most of the times, others do not understand that outlook and so, fearing the one they love might also take their creative ideas for granted or misunderstand them, Pisces do not open up about their feelings at all.
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