As human beings, it is a standard that we establish relationships with different kinds of people throughout our lives. Some of these relationships are going to be casual in nature; the ones that don’t really impact our lives all too much.
Some of these relationships are temporary wherein a person just enters your live to serve a specific purpose for a certain period of time. Some of these relationships are more permanent and they might be impactful or not.
There are so many kinds of relationships that a single person can have in a life. However, one thing is for sure. It’s always different when you have a strong relationship and bond with your mother.
She isn’t going to be the most perfect person you will ever meet in this life. But that shouldn’t diminish her role in your life and vice versa.
There is no other person in the world who can emulate the kind of bond and connection that you would have with your mother. These are very special relationships and that’s why you always need to cherish them as much as you possibly can.
It’s no secret that as we are growing up, we can be really ungrateful and mean towards our mothers. It might be a rite of passage that a lot of kids fall victim to going through before they get a more profound appreciation for the roles that mothers play in their lives.
It might just come with the territory of growing old and maturing. As we are growing up, we develop a sense of independence. We realize that we don’t really need our parents anymore and as a result, we fail to give them the appreciation that they’re truly deserving of.
We grow to stop relying on them and as a result, we don’t really engage with them anymore. On the most extreme cases, people can even drift apart from their parents without ever finding their way back.
We might think that it’s all a part of the natural circle of life. We say that we are raised by our parents to prepare for adulthood. That’s why we think that when we turn into adults, we go away from our parents and fulfill whatever purpose we attribute to ourselves. You might think that that is just normal. But science actually says that abandoning your mother even at an older age is going to dramatically affect the span of her life.
Based on a study that was spearheaded by researchers from the University of California, companionship plays a very big role in determining whatever age a person might eventually pass away.
The study was called, “Loneliness in Older Persons: A Predictor of Functional Decline and Death.” The study actually followed more than 1,600 subjects with an average age of 71.
They found that those who admitted to feeling lonely in life died significantly sooner than their peers who were more socially engaged. The studies also tried to take other factors into consideration such as health and economic status but it found that loneliness was still the biggest factor and determinant.
This exhaustive study took place over the course of 6 years and nearly 23% of old people who considered themselves lonely actually passed away. This is a substantial number when compared to the 14% of seniors who passed away while being content with the happiness and social engagement that they were receiving in their lives.
“In older persons, health outcomes, such as worsening disability and death, are influenced not just by biomedical factors but also by psychosocial distress,” claims a part of the study. “Loneliness is an important contributor to human suffering, especially in elderly persons, among whom prevalence rates may be higher.”
This definitely not be the happiest news for you to hear but it’s very important especially if you’re interested in prolonging the life of your mother for as long as possible.
Hopefully, if you love your mother, then this article should enlighten you and encourage you to spend as much time with your mother as your schedule permits. Try to make time for your mom (or any other close family member for that matter) if you are genuinely interested in their well-being.
On top of that, science also shows that staying close with older relatives like parents can actually be very beneficial for younger individuals. Rosemary Blieszner is an expert and professor of human development and she claims that older individuals are “pretty tolerant of friends’ imperfections and idiosyncrasies, more than young adults.”
She goes on to say, “You bring a lot more experience to your friendships when you’re older. You know what’s worth fighting about and not worth fighting about.”
So, if you haven’t given your mother a phone call recently, then take this article as a sign for you to do so.