You never want to be known as that person who has a reputation for being a terrible performer in the bedroom. Sex isn’t as taboo nowadays as it once was. It’s much more open in the modern era – and that means that a lot more people are open to scrutiny and criticism for how they perform in bed too.
But you shouldn’t let that worry you too much. You are still capable of making sure that you perform well in the sack. It’s just a matter of finding out what the best possible moves you can make are.
Fortunately for us, sex and relationship studies have been conducted in recent years, and the findings are available for all of us who are interested. And we are definitely interested. Based on a recent study that covered more than 5000 people, a lot of us seem to have the wrong notion of what constitutes effective moves in a sexual situation. In plain terms, a lot of us are doing sex wrong. And we need to be able to fix that, shouldn’t we?
So fortunately, there are more studies that can give us a better picture into what we really need to be doing in the bedroom to up our game. So what are some things that we really need to avoid doing in the bedroom? Well, here are the results of those findings:
1. Don’t engage in too much talking.
There’s nothing that’s going to kill the mood faster than just talking a little too much during sex. It’s good to communicate, but always make sure that you’re keeping it at a minimal. Sex is a physical act, not a verbal one.
2. Don’t have sex without being passionate about it.
If you’re not going to pour your passion into what you’re doing, then it’s going to be very evident in your body language. Your partner is always going to be able to tell when you’re not fully into it. And that’s a really bad sexual experience.
3. Don’t just stick to one position or to one spot for prolonged periods of time.
Don’t be a one-trick pony. Just because your partner liked that particular spot or position once doesn’t mean that they’re going to like it every single time. Don’t allow yourself to be a one-trick pony. Learn to mix things up a little bit.
4. Don’t be a terrible kisser.
A kiss is a powerful thing. It’s usually what gets things started. When you kiss someone, you are letting them know with your mouth just how excited you are to connect with them. And if you’re a terrible kisser, then you’re just not starting things off on the right foot.
And if you’re guilty of all of those, things, then you really need to make sure to cut it out right away. Like we have already established. You don’t want to gain a bad reputation for yourself especially when it pertains to your sex life. So you always have to stay on top of your game.
And how exactly do you do that? Well, the previous studies that were conducted have also given us valuable insight on the things that you really need to be focusing on as well.
5. You have to be seen as caring and enthusiastic.
Really pour your heart and soul into it. Don’t treat your partner like some mere object of pleasure. Be caring and be exciting.
6. You need to have healthy communication without being too talkative.
Of course, there is still room for communication in sex. But always make sure to do it in as little words and sentences as possible. You don’t want to be having a conversation while you’re actually doing it.
7. You have to be a great kisser.
As has been already established, you just need to be a good kisser. A good kiss can really put you off to a good start. All of the momentum during sex really starts with a good kiss.
8. You have to be generous enough to make sure that your partner climaxes too.
Don’t be just thinking about yourself. You really need to make sure that you are doing whatever you can to help your partner get to the top of the mountain as well.
It’s important to note that these are all very minor factors that can contribute to having a better-performing sex life. But it isn’t really the whole story. The fact of the matter remains that we all have different tastes given that we are all inherently unique and special people.
We must all be able to figure out what we want and what our partner wants. It’s all really a matter of being able to play off one another; to learn and to grow. That’s why the couples who are together for prolonged periods tend to have better sex lives. They know what the other likes, and they are constantly finding ways to get better and better over time.