Sometimes, to avoid conflict altogether, we choose to stay silent in a relationship. It may seem like a good idea at first but you should know that it’s counterproductive. You should always be open to communication and you never want to leave your feelings bottled up inside. This leads to unnecessary resentment when your expectations are not met just because you didn’t communicate them clearly.
Communication should always serve as the foundation for any relationship. The best kinds of relationships are those where partners understand the importance of communicating with each other. These people never underestimate the power of their words and the impact they can have on the dynamics of any relationship. Some say that actions speak louder than words, but it should be noted that words have their place in relationships as well. The words people utter are direct articulations of their character and their feelings towards another person. Tone and language can be very telling when it comes to determining how much a person values you, and that is why communication is very important. A lot of times, couples that fail to realize the importance of communication in their relationships will find themselves in a downward spiral.
Communication can be the best tool for solving even the most difficult problems in any relationship. Couples should always practice honesty with each other especially when it comes to their feelings and expectations. You can never expect your partner to be a mind reader and so you have to be able to accurately articulate what you’re feeling at any given moment if you want to be understood. Patience and understanding go a long way in relationships, and the only way we can be patient with each other is if we have the capacity to talk our way out of our problems.
However, you should also know that talking and communication can be the spark for arguments. These arguments can cause potentially fatal harms to your relationship. That’s why you always have to be careful in the way you communicate so as not to damage the fabric of your relationship together. You always have to make use of the proper tone and prose when discussing important things with each other. Be sensitive of each other’s feelings and never be combative. There’s a difference between being confrontational and being communicative. Always strive to be the latter instead of the former. Being confrontational is unhealthy and leads to nowhere. Being communicative means that you’re willing to be a team player and work towards a better place in your relationship.
1. The One Word You SHOULD Always Avoid When Talking With Each Other
There is one dreaded word that you must avoid at all costs when you’re engaged in a conversation with your significant other. Always avoid making use of the word should in your relationship. When you make use of this word, you’re implying that you know better than your partner and that you are establishing an air of authority and dominance over him/her. It implies that you are belittling your partner because of their outlooks and decisions in life. You should never impose anything on your partner just because you’re in a relationship together. You have no right to do that. When you start feeling like you have the right to do so, it doesn’t bode well for any relationship at all.
You should start considering a career change.
You should try cutting some calories from your diet.
They come off as confrontational and combative rather than constructive. Yes, your intentions may be pure and you may only want the best for your partner. However, when you make use of language like this, it comes off as degrading and belittling. You never want to come off as an arrogant know-it-all, so you have to try a better approach when you’re trying to give advice to your partner. When you want your partner to start rethinking career options, you could try saying So do you feel like you can still get a lot out of this current path that you’re on? or if you’re trying to get your partner to live a healthier lifestyle, try saying Maybe we should consider eating healthier from now on.
These are simple adjustments to your phrasing and your language, but they go a long way in preserving the empathetic integrity of your conversation. It doesn’t make you come off as combative or confrontational. When you use phrasing like that, you’re being inclusive and caring. In fact, if you talk like that, your partner might be more appreciative of your honesty and receptive of your opinions. You’re not changing the message, you’re only changing the manner of delivery.
2. Why Silence Is Never An Option In A Relationship
Sometimes, to avoid conflict altogether, we choose to stay silent in a relationship. It may seem like a good idea at first but you should know that it’s counterproductive. You should always be open to communication and you never want to leave your feelings bottled up inside. This leads to unnecessary resentment when your expectations are not met just because you didn’t communicate them clearly. Remember that you never have to hide what you say, you just have to be careful with how you deliver your message. Keep practicing. You’re not going to get it right every single time. You will get into fights, that’s natural. Just know that there are no fights that a good talk can’t fix.
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