This Is Why It’s Important To Break The Rules In A Relationship Sometimes

Valentine’s Day is coming up and that should be enough reason for you to take a good look at your relationship and assess the state of your romance. This article is going to focus on a specific piece of advice from a famed psychotherapist and relationship expert named Esther Perel. It doesn’t matter if you think your relationship is going well or not.

It always pays to take some time every once in a while to gather more knowledge on how to better improve the state of your relationship. And that’s exactly what you’re doing when you read articles like this one.

So, try to sit down and take a trip down memory lane for a bit. When was the last time you actually broke the rules? And when we say to break the rules, we’re not talking about felonies or serious crimes here. But when was the last time you acted out of the ordinary? When was the last time you broke the mold?

When was the last time that you decided to do something that people would never expect you to have done? If it has been a long time, then you need to take this piece of advice into consideration. When you break the rules, you will feel so powerful and you will feel like you have a strength within you that you never even knew existed.

You are going to feel so free and liberated. You will feel like nothing can stop you. You will feel like nothing is holding you back. And that’s a very exhilarating experience for anyone to go through. That is why there is something so therapeutic and generative about being able to just let loose and break away from tradition for a bit.

As they say, there’s something so inherently appealing about the violation of the prohibition. We are always told that we mostly love what we can’t have and there’s a reason for that. We are always so tempted to press the button that says the “Do Not Press” label hanging right above it.

Sure, it’s going to make you nervous and anxious to a certain extent. But that’s all part of the thrill that you experience when you liberate yourself in this manner. Jack Morin, a famed sexologist, has actually delved very deeply into the idea of the “violation of prohibition” in many of his writings. He has claimed that it is one of the cornerstones of desire.

But how does breaking the rules actually impact one’s relationship? How does it make the dynamics of a relationship better? How does it improve the condition of the romance between two people? Well, when you break the rules in your relationship, you are essentially freeing yourselves.

You are letting each other know that you are free to do anything so as long as you’re together. You and your partner gain a sense of freedom, confidence, bravery, and courage when the two of you do something that you shouldn’t.

And if you don’t know the kind of rule-breaking that we’re talking about in this article, then continue to read on for a few ideas:

1. When you’re both at a party, just leave early without telling anyone and grab a drink together while you’re making your way home.

2. If you’re just about to head out for a party, then quickly exit your homes the moment the babysitter arrives. And before you had to the place of the party, make a few stops beforehand and dedicate some time for yourselves.

3. In the middle of the week, just stay at home for a few hours in the morning after you wake up. Call in sick. Say that you have car troubles. Lie. Just spend the morning snuggling up with the one you love while keeping the rest of the world locked away temporarily.

4. Send an NSFW text message to your partner in the middle of the day. It might not be the classiest thing to do but who cares? You’re breaking the rules, remember?

5. Engage in PDA. Nothing beats some good old fashioned snogging that will make the people around you feel uncomfortable.

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