Being a mother is supposed to be one person’s decision – not the whole family. Sadly, our society has a lot to say about people being pregnant. It’s nobody else’s business when a couple decides to have a child – but people still love asking them on every single occasion.
Today’s story is about a wife who literally kept a “Pregnancy Jar” with her so whenever her family asked about a baby, she brought the jar out and asked them to put a dollar in.
The Story
Redditor, thasyojar2013, shared her story on AITA (Am I the A**hole?) where she asked the community if she did the right thing or not. She wrote:
“My husband and I have been married for 6 years. Still don’t have kids (we want them but it still not happening). Friends and family are causing us constant stress about having a baby soon but it’s obviously something we can’t control. We only wished that they’d stop but to no avail.”
“So what I did was come up with idea (stupid I know) and that is have an empty jar and call it “Pregnancy Jar”. I carry it with me in my bag whenever I’m with friends and family and everytime someone asks about when my husband and I are gonna have a baby, I pull my Jar out and ask them to drop a dollar in there for asking. I’d get puzzled looks but they reach out for their pockets/wallets/purses and pull out a dollar and out it inside the jar. It actually worked because most of thrm stopped asking after 4 months.”
“Last week we had dinner at my parents house, My brother came back from his business trip that lasted a month and while we were eating he asked when me and my husband were going to have a kid. My husband paused, I got up from the chair and made my way to where my brother was sitting with my jar in my hand and asked him to drop a dollar for the question he asked, he stared at me then laughed nervously asking if I was being serious. Everyone was looking at us. He said no, he didn’t have to pay me but I told him he didn’t have to ask either so here we are!. I could tell he felt embarrassed he immediately reached out to his pocket, pulled out his wallet and put a dollar in my jar. I made my way back to my seat and sat down and resumed eating like nothing happened. It got awkward afterward. Mom pulled me into the kitchen later to tell me that I embarrassed my brother infront of his wife and family and said I should quit acting childish by running around with a jar demanding others to put money in it, I told her they should quit asking then. She went on about how they’re just worried for us since we are in mid 30s and don’t have much time left if we want at least one healthy baby. I got upset and she started arguing. My husband and I left and we haven’t seen them in days, except I got a call from my sister basically siding with mom and the others saying I’m being childish.”
“So AITA for this?”
She also added a Q&A to answer some questions asked by the community. She wrote:
“(1) this has been going on for years but in the past year it has gotten worse.”
“(2) I already told them about how I feel regarding this question, my husband doesn’t care much and says I should let it go too.”
“(3) Yes they pay everytime because it’s just a dollar, it won’t make me any richer or them any poorer.”
“(4) My husband and I spend the money on snacks to eat every night when watching tv or some toys for the dogs.”
“One more thing… I realize that this could actually be expanded into wedding jar/Cake jar (for weight loss)/work jar/house jar/ and so no and so on. Depending on the the type of truggle because these are the things we struggle and get frustrated with often but.. with the fact that people will just keep asking then we might become millionaires one day. Lol.”
“Also, someone suggested I up the price to 5$. It will mostly depend on the prices of gas, lol, so we’ll see.”
The Responses
Reddit’s community supported this wife for her “pregnancy jar.” A lot of them told her that it was a very creative way to shut people up. For context, NTA means “Not the A**hole.” Here are some of the best comments:
Gold-Somewhere1770 said:
“NTA. How creative! ‘I don’t have to pay you.'”
“‘Yeah well you didn’t have to ask something that’s none of your business but here we are'”
“Love it.”
Tical79 wrote:
“NTA”
“Furthermore, OP, I will be stealing this idea for both myself and anyone I ever advise on the issue.”
“IT.IS.BRILLIANT.”
“It is because it does exactly what happened: it brings the absurdity of the question (and by extension the questioner) to an even more absurd plane. You have figured out how to “outcrazy’ people that ask without looking crazy yourself”
“Bravo and I regret I have not but one upvote to give.”
idngkrn shared:
“NTA mom owes the jar a dollar. People need to quit asking people when/if they are having a kid or having another kid.”
“If they want a kid, they are probably struggling with fertility, working through that process, and it’s difficult enough without people asking.”
“If they dont, that’s fine too.”
This post has over 4000 comments at the time of writing this article, you can read them on Reddit here.
Our Take
Definitely NTA. This wife is one of the most creative when it comes to answering people’s unneeded questions. We love this creative way of answering one of the most annoying questions in the world.
What’s Your Take?
What’s your take on this wife’s story? Share your thoughts in the comments below.
Source: Reddit
I’m curious if you’re answering the question for those that paid?