Naturally, in an ideal romantic situation, looks and appearances should have very little to do with it. We always want to think that we fall in love with peoples’ personalities and not just looks. And that’s right. That should totally be the case.
However, can a partner’s looks directly impact how happy someone would be in a relationship? Well, recent research has confirmed that looks can play a role in the overall happiness of a woman in a relationship. And the findings are not what you think.
It turns out that there are a lot of women out there who are a lot happier than other women in relationships. And what separates them? The physical attractiveness of their men. The women who are with less attractive men claim to be much happier in the state of their relationships and their lives overall.
This is a heated topic and it has divided so many people on it. But this is what the findings of the study seem to suggest.
Based on the research conducted by a team of experts at the Florida State University, it has been found out that healthier and stronger relationships are those wherein the female is the more physically attractive one. The study spanned a vast number of heterosexual couples and the results seemed to have established a certain pattern and consistency.
In order to carry out the study, the couples involved in the project agreed to have themselves rated based on their attractiveness by boffins from Southern Methodist University and Florida State University. They were given questionnaires that they were required to fill out. And the questions were designed to delve into whether they had desired to remain fit and sexy.
The entire project looked into the lives of 113 newlywed couples who were still in their 20s and who had been married for at least 4 months. So, the findings might differ for any other couples who don’t exactly fit into that demographic.
However, the leaders of the study say that their findings might have wider implications in the field of relationship science. This is what one of the lead researchers, Tania Reynolds, had to say about the matter:
“The results reveal that having a physically attractive husband may have negative consequences for wives, especially if those wives are not particularly attractive.
It might be helpful to identify women at risk of developing more extreme weight-loss behaviors, which have been linked to other forms of psychological distress, such as depression, anxiety, substance abuse and dissatisfaction with life.”
There is no denying the alarming case of women all over the world who force themselves into unhealthy diets just to appear thinner and leaner because they are taught that that would be the ideal body standard. The study found that certain social factors that exist in this contemporary world continually drive women into unhealthy eating habits just to subscribe to an arbitrary standard of body image.
And it turns out that a lot of that pressure that women put on themselves is caused by having husbands who are more attractive than they are. That’s why a lot of women who have less attractive partners end up happier. They don’t really feel the need or the pressure to make themselves look much better than they already do. The Florida-based university confirmed that these women didn’t feel the pressure to diet and starve themselves all of the time. And so, that’s why they tend to have more positive dispositions than other women.
This isn’t a small issue at all considering that around 70 million people in the world actually suffer from some kind of eating disorder. This is a statistic given by the National Eating Disorder Association based in the United States. There is no denying that this data is particularly worrying.
And on the other side of the coin, men weren’t found to have any pressure placed on them as a result of how their partners looked.
“In contrast, men’s dieting motivations were not significantly associated with their own and their partners’ attractiveness.
The husbands seemed to be basically more committed, more invested in pleasing their wives when they felt that they were getting a pretty good deal.”
It would be fair to admit that both men and women are suffering as a result of unreasonable standards set about by contemporary media and popular culture. But it’s really the women of the world who are suffering a greater deal with this regard. Based on Reynolds’s professional assessment, this is how couples will be able to combat these negative feelings:
“One way to help these women is for partners to be very reaffirming, reminding them, ‘You’re beautiful. I love you at any weight or body type’.
Or perhaps focusing on the ways they are a good romantic partner outside of attractiveness and emphasizing those strengths: ‘I really value you because you’re