Never underestimate the power of choosing the right spouse with whom you will spend the rest of your life. In life, you will be forced to make a lot of decisions that will determine whether or not you will end up successful.
Naturally, there are plenty of variables that need to be taken into consideration when determining a person’s success. Your philosophy and your mindset are going to play a very big role as you try to develop various traits and skills that will lead you to become successful. You want to always be working on becoming more determined, strong, resilient, persistent, and amiable as well. These are traits that can really help you go a long way.
And yes, all of the traits that have been mentioned here so far are important when trying to find success in your career and professional life. But if you’re interested in having a successful life in general, research shows that you should really pay attention to who you’re going to end up marrying.
You have probably heard of the saying “Behind every successful man is a woman” before. And there’s a lot of truth to that. But it’s not just for men.
Women are going to need the right man behind them if they’re going to become successful as well. People who have supportive and energetic spouses are more likely to achieve success in life according to a study that was published by experts at Carnegie Mellon University.
The researchers at the university looked into the lives of 163 different married couples. Every single one of the pairs was given the option to choose between solving a simple puzzle or competing for a prize. The researchers recorded the interactions of the couple as they both pondered on their options.
They found out that the people who had more encouraging and supportive partners were those who were more likely to take on the challenge of actually competing for a prize. And those who had rather discouraging and pessimistic partners were the ones who opted to just solve the simple puzzle that was in front of them.
A few months after the study, the couples who accepted the challenges experienced a lot more personal growth, happiness, and psychological well-being.
This is what Brooke Feeney, the lead researcher from Carnegie Mellon, had to say about the matter:
“We found support for the idea that the choices people make at these specific decision points, such as pursuing a work opportunity… matter a lot for their long-term well-being.”
So what are the keys in actually being able to push a spouse towards taking on new challenges and embracing new opportunities? Well, this is what the study had to say about it:
- Express enthusiasm about a new opportunity that comes by.
- Reassure your partner that you will always be there for them should they take a chance on it.
- Discuss the benefits of actually taking on the new opportunity or accepting the challenge.
Fenney also went on to say, “Significant others can help you thrive through embracing life opportunities. Or they can hinder your ability to thrive by making it less likely that you’ll pursue opportunities for growth.”
Try looking into the lives of successful people like Mark Zuckerberg, Barack Obama, or Beyonce Knowles. These are people who have amassed substantial success in their individual fields. And they have at one point in their careers attributed their success to the support of their partners.
“Priscilla’s the most important person in my life so you can say it’s the most important thing I built in my time here,” said Zuckerberg of his wife, Priscilla, when he was at Harvard giving the 2017 commencement address.
Not to be outdone, Barack Obama also has some flowery things to say about his wife’s contributions to his success in life:
“Obviously, I couldn’t have done anything that I’ve done without Michelle. You were asking earlier what keeps me sane; what keeps me balanced; what allows me to deal with the pressure. It is this young lady right here… not only has she been a great first lady. She is just my rock. I count on her in so many ways every single day.
Famed superstar Beyonce Knowles also had this to say about her rapper husband, Jay-Z:
“I would not be the woman I am if I did not go home to that man. It just gives me such a foundation.”