Good job! You’re finally in a relationship and you’re no longer living that single life. You can finally delete all of those dating apps on your phone and you can update your relationship status on your Facebook page. However, before you actually dive into the thick of things, you need to make sure that you familiarize yourself with the basic rules of a new relationship.
This is especially true if you’re inexperienced in the fields of love and romance. If you want to make sure that your relationship doesn’t end up becoming just a short fling, then you need to make sure that you avoid doing these 9 things with your partner:
1. You shouldn’t be so quick to become too friendly with his group of friends. Yes, you would want his friends to like you. You would always want to gain their favor. You always want to have good relations with them. But it also gets to a point where you might be TOO friendly and you don’t want that. Keep things casual and light. Be chummy but avoid intimate physical contact with them early on.
2. You become a stalker towards your new beau. Stalking is never a good look – not even in an intimate relationship with a person. You never want to be coming off as a creepy woman so early in the relationship. You don’t want your partner to be thinking that you’re crazy and that he should be staying away from you.
Yes, you want to be spending as much time with him as possible. But there is a line between love and obsession. And you shouldn’t be obsessing yourself over him too much. You might end up suffocating him and driving him away.
3. Don’t put your new partner on a pedestal. It can be very easy to think too highly of a person you’ve just fallen in love with. But you have to remember that as human beings, we all have our weaknesses. We can’t all be perfect. We’re not all always going to do the right thing. And you can’t be pressuring him as if you expect him to be perfect all the time. Value him for who he really is – with flaws included.
4. Okay, so maybe you’re not so inexperienced in the field of romance after all. And when that’s the case, you need to make sure that you don’t maintain friendly relations with your ex. You don’t want to be getting into a new relationship with someone and have him think that you’re still communicating with an ex. That’s a great way to drive a wedge between the two of you. You don’t want your ex to be ruining your shot at finding true love with someone new.
5. Never pressure your partner to commit to you right away. Sure, you might already be committed. You might already be investing yourself in the relationship wholeheartedly. And that’s fine. However, it would be unfair for you to pressure your partner into doing the same so early in the game.
Sometimes, it takes a while for other people to warm up to a relationship. You have to be able to let your partner go at their own pace. Just be patient and trust that things are eventually going to fall into place.
6. Don’t say “I love you” so early in the relationship. That’s just way too much pressure for a couple that is only starting out. Besides, how can you be so sure that you’re in love with someone without really taking the time to get to know them first? You’re going to need to let some time pass before you blurt out those three magical words. That way, when you do say it, you’ll be surer of how you feel. And there’s a higher chance that your partner would say it back to you as well.
7. Don’t completely isolate yourself from your group of friends. Whenever you get into a new relationship, it can be very easy to fall into the trap of wanting to spend ALL your time on your partner. But that’s wrong. You shouldn’t be disregarding the other aspects of your life – particularly your social life. You don’t want your partner to think that you don’t have a life outside of the relationship. You should still make time for your other friends and acquaintances.
8. Don’t be putting up walls so early in a relationship. Yes, you don’t want to be making yourself an open target for someone else’s pain. But you’re already in the relationship. You’re going to have to open yourself up. You’re going to have to make yourself more vulnerable if you really want your partner to get to know you better.
9. Don’t be airing your dirty laundry. Keep the intimate aspects of your relationship to yourself. Keep it between the two of you. You don’t want to be making the intimate aspects of your relationship public for all to see.
