In an ideal world, the person you love would also love you in the ways that you love them. However, we live in a world that is far from ideal. We live in reality and well, reality has other plans for us a lot of the time. There is no denying that balance is always going to be a very important aspect of any relationship. No relationship is ever going to survive if one person is giving substantially much more than the other as far as love and care are concerned. And when that happens, the relationship tends to become dysfunctional because of the imbalance. And so that’s why it’s important for you to always make sure that you don’t get stuck in this kind of relationship.
But how do you know for sure? Well, here are a few signs that you could be on the lookout for.
1. You are the one who is putting in all of the effort in the relationship.
You should never have to be the only one who is putting in the effort in a relationship. You should have a partner who is willing to take on some of the workload for the both of you. You can’t be the only one who picks up after yourselves. You can’t be the one who plans dates, who does household chores, who earns the money. These are efforts that have to be shared equally.
2. You are the only one who seems interested in defining the relationship.
Defining the relationship is important. When you add a label to things, you are establishing a social contract with one another. You are essentially committing yourselves to each other. And so if you find that your partner is hesitant, perhaps it’s because they aren’t as invested in the relationship as you are.
3. Your partner never makes you a priority in their life.
You constantly find yourself having to compete for second place, but you never get a shot at first. There’s always something that manages to pull ahead of you in the eyes of your partner. You always have to play second fiddle to their careers, their hobbies, or their friends, and it’s sad how you never come out on top.