There’s no denying the value of texting in the modern era – especially when it comes to modern dating. Because of the prominence of smart phones, you are now granted the ability to instantly communicate with your significant other regardless of how far you might be. But remember that old cliché: with great power comes great responsibility. Just because you have the power to be texting your partner at all times doesn’t mean that you should. And in those moments that you do text him, you always want to make sure that you stay judicious. You don’t want to be texting him recklessly. You want to be calculated.
Yes, you always want to be able to speak your mind in your relationship; and that’s true. That’s healthy. However, that doesn’t mean that you can just recklessly spurt things out without thinking of how your words are going to impact your relationship. You want to make sure that you are still maintaining your tact, grace, and poise. That rings true for both real-life conversations and text messages. There are just certain text messages that you want to make sure that you don’t send to your man. Otherwise, you’re going to drive him further and further away from you.
Texting should be a tool that you use to get closer to one another. But if you use it wrong, you risk missing out on having a happy and healthy relationship with him. And if you feel like you’re not that good of a texter, don’t worry. That’s what this article is for. Here are a few examples of text messages you should never send to your man if you want to keep him in your life.
1. Nags and complaints.
Not only when you’re texting, but keep in mind to keep the nagging and complaining to a minimum. In general, guys really hate it when you do that. Try to be a problem solver instead of someone who just passively complains about every bad things that’s going on. Be his partner. Work together as you try to jump over the hurdles of your relationship. You don’t want to be nagging and nagging too much without talking about what you can do to remedy your situation.
2. Insults and criticisms.
There should always be room for criticism in a relationship – but it should always be done with sensitivity and love. You can’t be criticizing and insulting him just to make him feel bad That’s not going to make him want to be with you. And you especially can’t be criticizing him through text. You risk being misunderstood. Always take a very personal approach in trying to constructively criticize your man. Otherwise, he might take it the wrong way.
3. Apologies and excuses.
Apologies are great – but don’t take the easy way out by merely texting them to him. When you screw up in a relationship, it’s essential that you swallow your pride and admit your faults. Go up to him and apologize to him; reassure him that you know what you did was wrong and that you’re going to learn from it. And most of all, do it in person. Something as sensitive as an apology has to be done in person. Sending it through a text message takes the meaning away from it.
4. Interrogations and accusations.
Don’t be so quick to jump to conclusions with your man. Don’t be interrogating him about his whereabouts on the previous night through text message. Don’t be accusing him of cheating on you with another girl through text. In general, hold of on all of the accusatory remarks. These are serious issues that need to be dealt with in person – and in a very intensive manner.
5. Huge relationship bombshells.
Don’t break up with him on the phone. Don’t ask him to move in with you through a text message. You don’t expect him to propose to you via a text message, do you? Afford him that same respect. If there is a serious issue surrounding your relationship, you have to be able to talk about these things in person. There are some conversations that just can’t be had on a virtual space.
6. Serious issues.
In relation to the previous item on this list, even some of the more serious aspects of life that don’t necessarily concern your relationship need to be discussed in person. If you find out that you’re sick, that you’re pregnant, that you’re getting promoted, that you’ve been fired; whatever. These are things that you should reserve for face-to-face conversations instead.
7. Secrets and private information.
And lastly, don’t share intimate and private details through your texts. You can’t be too trusting of technology these days. You never know who’s going to end up with whatever information you share over your phone.