Sometimes love doesn’t fade. It just gets quiet when no one’s asking real questions anymore.
It happens slowly. You stop checking in. Stop talking about things that used to matter. Not because you don’t care, but because life gets busy. You get tired. You assume they already know.
Then one day, you realize you’re sharing a bed but not really sharing much else. That soft silence isn’t peace anymore. It’s distance pretending to be comfort.
And yeah, it’s not about big fights or drama. It’s the quiet stuff that breaks people apart. The things unsaid. The days where you just scroll instead of talk.
If you’ve been there, or you’re there right now, it’s okay. Every couple drifts a little. The fix isn’t huge. It’s not fancy gifts or weekend getaways. It’s talking again. Real talking.
So sit down. No phone, no background noise. Just you, them, and a few questions that bring both of you back.
1. What can I do to make you feel more loved?
Sounds simple, but most people don’t know the answer.
We guess. We assume.
Ask this one, and mean it. Maybe they want more time. Maybe they just want to be noticed again. It’s never the same for everyone.
2. Have I done anything lately that hurt you?
Most people carry small hurts and pretend it’s nothing.
You probably have too.
Asking this doesn’t mean you did something wrong. It means you care enough to check.
3. When you’re tired, what helps you calm down?
Some people need quiet. Some need company. Some just need five minutes where they’re not holding everything together.
Knowing that little thing changes a lot more than you think.
4. What kind of affection feels right to you?
Not everyone wants the same type.
For some, it’s a hug. For others, it’s sitting next to each other without saying anything.
It’s about what makes them feel close, not what’s easy for you.
5. How much time alone do you actually need?
People think love means being together all the time. It doesn’t.
Space doesn’t mean something’s wrong. It just means breathing.
Respecting that space keeps both hearts from burning out.
6. Are there any old arguments we never really fixed?
You know the ones.
The ones you both said “it’s fine” about, even when it wasn’t.
This is your chance to bring them up without fighting. Just to let them go.
7. How do you feel about us lately?
Scary question, right?
But it’s better to ask than assume.
Sometimes they’re okay. Sometimes they’re just pretending to be. Either way, you’ll finally know.
8. What’s been stressing you out lately?
It’s not about fixing it. You’re not their therapist.
Just listen. Sometimes that’s all people need, someone who doesn’t try to make it smaller.
9. Is there anything you find hard to tell me?
The hardest one, but also the most powerful.
It opens the door that both of you quietly closed.
If you can ask this and stay calm while listening, you’re already doing better than most.
Final Thought
Love doesn’t disappear overnight. It fades slowly when people stop trying to understand each other.
Ask more. Listen better. Laugh sometimes. Cry sometimes. But don’t go quiet.
That’s how you stay close, by showing up, even when the words feel heavy.
