Marriage is one of the most important decisions of life. Two people decide on spending the rest of their lives with each other, accepting each other completely.
For some, marriages become a healthy source of happiness and growth. For others, it becomes one of the most toxic parts of their lives. It varies from individual to individual – a lot of factors are at play in marriages.
Some of the vital factors of every marriage are:
- Compromise
- Time
- Effort
- Love
- Shared goals
- Financial transparency
- Healthy intimacy
- More compromise
- Complete acceptance of one another
Today’s article is a Reddit post, where people share about the types of women not to marry – based on their own experiences and the experiences of those close to them. Reddit user pseudonym posted his question (somewhat of a statement) on AskReddit, saying:
“Reddit, you should never marry a woman that….”
Expanding on the statement, the Reddit user added their own short story:
“(Whatever thing a woman does that’s a red flag) My dad says you should never marry a woman that counts every penny you make or spend.”
The Responses
People from all over Reddit’s community responded to this post with their own stories and types. Explaining and elaborating on the types of women not to marry. Here are some of the top responses:
freedomgeek wrote:
“…has a different desire/lack of desire for children as you. If you want kids find someone else who wants kids, if you’re like me and don’t want kids find someone else who doesn’t want kids.”
“…has radically different interests and values to you. If the same data and arguments lead you to different conclusions you’re just heading for conflict.”
“…is irrational or stupid. This includes and prevents so many things…”
“…has no ambition or curiosity. They’ll leach off your money or spout anti-science crap.”
“…you aren’t interested in.”
A deleted user wrote a simple answer:
“… Doesn’t share your sense of humor.”
sugarloafrep simply wrote:
“…you don’t love”
militant shared his father’s lesson:
“My father has owned a bar since I was 5. I’ve helped him run it on and off since my teens. He’s always told me that any woman you meet in a bar, you leave in the bar.”
huntingbears wrote:
“…cares about how much you spend on an engagement ring.”
Another deleted user wrote a short reply:
“Initially left her boyfriend to start dating you.”
BeautifulSnowflake wrote about the importance of cuddles:
“… doesn’t enjoy hugs and cuddles!”
Jigsus wrote about intimacy:
“…that doesn’t like $ex”
Another user wrote:
“…doesn’t love you for everything that you are.”
SaraFist wrote:
“If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life, never make a pretty woman your wife.”
One user wrote:
“…cheated on you”
BradimusPrime wrote:
“Dropped out of high school because of daddy issues.”
dunbarave simply said:
“…who doesn’t believe in marriage”
bjos144 said:
“had a father that called her ‘princess’. Chances are, she believes it.”
Cuteshirley shared an important insight:
“…has a cruel personality or thinks others suffering is entertaining.”
One user wrote:
“…hangs out of has a lot of “guy” friends, worse if one of them is her ex.”
“Would not marry/date that type of person”
generichan wrote:
“… takes a few hours to think after you propose.”
DYSthymia said:
“is high maintenance”
One user wrote:
“… says you will have to drive a Volvo when you have children.”
“… treats you like a child or a pet.”
“… spells her name with extraneous y’s or k’s.”
TimofeyPnin gives importance to grammar:
“You should never marry a woman who doesn’t know when to use ‘that,’ and when to use ‘who,’ properly.”
One user said:
“isn’t ready to have kids the second the ring’s on. At this point in my life I’ve come to the conclusion that the only reason to get married is to provide an environment to kids.”
Another user shared important advice on finances:
“Money is a huge one, if she is interested in you for your money, hit and quit.
Watch how she treats others, especially those in positions under her, i.e. maids/waiters/etc, if she treats them bad lose her.”
“Keep an eye how she treats her family and friends, if she’s very fake with them, lose her.”
“Last but not least, if she isn’t treating you well at the start, chances are she will never treat you well, it will only get worse.”
Sommiel has a specific type:
“Avoid women that think ‘The Bridges of Madison County’ was really romantic.”
Another user shared a very important piece of advice:
“If you marry just for love, you are making a horrible mistake. A marriage takes more than just love.”
“And what most people think of as love really isn’t. Love, real love, takes a hell of a long time to develop. There’s something that comes after infatuation that we usually call love, and it’s great. But it also wears off in the same way infatuation does.”
One user shared a simple type of woman:
“…corrects you constantly.”
Try_Everything shared about realistic expectations:
“..thinks Disney’s portrayal of romance, love and relationships is at all realistic.”
“…is currently married to another man.”
Our Take
We think you should take your time before deciding to marry. It’s going to have a massive impact on you – be it good or bad. If you’re sure about the person you’re marrying; your future plans match, you’re somewhat on the same wavelength, you are open about each other’s finances and don’t mind discussing them without fights, you can sort out arguments without waiting days – that’s what it takes for a marriage to work and become successful.
If you can’t do most of those things with your partner, your marriage is going to take a lot of time and energy from you – leaving you with a lot of toxicity and regret. It can also lead to divorce. So again, think before taking the step and make sure you can see a future with the person – love, alone, can not make a marriage work. It requires a lot more than love.
What’s Your Take?
What’s your take on this? Share your thoughts in the comments below!
Source: Reddit
You’ll never have a happy marriage with someone who tells anyone who will listen about your personal problems. It is a sign of vulnerability and often leads to an emotional affair or other types of betrayal.