We all know that the art of reverse psychology is something that involves a certain level of deceit and deception. We try to get people to do something by acting opposite of how we would typically act in that situation. For instance, if I were to tell you to just close this article and go back to browsing your social media feeds, what would you be more inclined to do?
Well, chances are that you would be more likely to just keep on reading until the end of this article. And that’s exactly how reverse psychology works. But it’s not just for silly little tricks like this wherein you can try to apply reverse psychology. It turns out that you can use it as an effective tool in winning your ex back.
Studies have shown that there is a certain psychology that accompanies the process of programming someone to fall in love with you. And it’s the same kind of psychology that you use whenever you are trying to win an ex back after you go your separate ways as a result of a breakup. One of the most important tools that you can use to win your ex back is reverse psychology.
In the field of psychology, there is such a thing as the Reactance Theory. This is an idea that says that whenever a person feels like their ability to be in control of a situation is being taken away, they will try to fight against it be rebelling. So in essence, they end up doing the opposite of what they are asked as an act of rebellion; as a symbol of still having full control of a situation.
That individual’s subconscious sees that something vital is being taken away from them and so it will look for any means possible to stop it from happening. When someone does the exact opposite of what they are asked to do, it’s essentially the subconscious way of reasserting dominance and control over a situation. And whatever is perceived to be taken away ends up staying put.
The most interesting aspect about this whole idea is that when you truly understand how reverse psychology plays its tricks in peoples’ minds, you are able to manipulate that person into doing something you want them to do. It might not even be something that they would characteristically partake in. I might even be something that goes against their own best interests.
Picture this scenario for a little bit: there is a group of girls. One of the girls in the group is told by the others that she is not brave enough to actually commit the crime of shoplifting. What often ends up happening is that girl will shoplift as a result of trying to prove the other girls wrong. She knows that what she is doing is bad. She knows that she would never shoplift under any other circumstances.
She doesn’t even NEED to shoplift at all. She just wants to prove to the other girls that she has the capability to do so. In essence, everyone else in the group was able to get that girl to do something that she didn’t want to do; something that she would never really do under normal circumstances. And this is the kind of technique that you can use to actually win your ex back.
At the end of the day, reverse psychology is all about playing with a person’s perception of control. A lot of it is really tied up in a person’s ego and pride. Whenever you threaten that person’s ego by making them feel helpless in their own situation, they will try to find a way out of it.
Their subconscious is going to try to find a way to regain a sense of control of the situation. You just have to be able to make your ex feel like they are losing their ability to win you back and in the end, they will feel like they need to regain control of the situation.
Of course, you shouldn’t take that to mean that reverse psychology is a foolproof technique. There are many ways in which it can go wrong and backfire on you. It’s still a risk that you’re going to have to be willing to take. You have to realize that reverse psychology is a kind of manipulation. And the plain truth is that a manipulative person is not someone that ANYONE would want to be in a relationship with.
At the end of the day, you’re just going to have to find a way to balance out all of the risks with the potential benefits. If you try to manipulate your ex into getting back together with you, then you risk them finding out and losing them forever.