1. Find your “why” for detachment.
First, you need to be able to figure out your motivation. You need to be able to come to terms with what is driving you to detach yourself from this person. Once you are able to establish the reason why you want to detach yourself from this individual, the easier it will be for you to find the drive and persistence that you need to follow through on it. Figure out why this is something that you really need to do. Figure out why this is something you really need to put yourself through.
2. Channel all of your feelings into something tangible and real.
Let all of your feelings out. Don’t keep them bottled up inside. Don’t be so quick to just sweep your feelings under a rug in the hopes that they eventually go away on their own. Don’t disregard the feelings that you have inside thinking that they’re just going to vanish. You need to be able to acknowledge them and come to terms with them. Let them out into the open. Channel them into something real and acknowledge the power they have over you.
3. Take things one step at a time.
Know that you don’t necessarily have to rush into things. Know that you don’t have to take such drastic measures right away in your process of detachment. It’s okay for you to want to take things slow. It’s a grind. It’s a marathon and not a sprint. It doesn’t matter how fast you get out of the gates, it’s about how you are able to sustain yourself throughout this entire process. So, don’t be so keen on taking huge leaps immediately. It’s okay to dip your feet and test the waters out for now.
4. Don’t be afraid to ask for help from licensed professionals.
Your mind is a complex and complicated instrument. And sometimes, you can get lost in it to the point that it might be hard for you to make sense of everything that is going on in there. That is why there is no shame in you consulting a licensed professional to help you navigate your way through your thoughts and feelings. You shouldn’t feel ashamed of looking for help from external sources who are reliable and trustworthy.
5. Don’t rush the process of detachment.
It’s not going to be an easy journey. It’s not a process that you can just fast-track. You can’t just skip to the end. It’s a long and tedious grind that you’re just going to have to put yourself through. The process of detaching yourself from someone who you have become so drastically invested in is never easy. But it’s not impossible either. You just have to be able to trust in both yourself and in the process. There will be times wherein you will want to quit. But don’t be discouraged, you’ll get there eventually.
6. Always keep the end-goal in mind.
Always be forward-thinking. Always have the end-goal in mind. Sometimes, reassuring yourself of the light at the end of the tunnel can do wonders for you. Constantly reminding yourself that things are eventually going to get better can be enough to pull you through to the end.
7. Learn to forgive and let go of any grudges or resentment.
You can’t expect to detach yourself from someone you once loved without letting go of all the grudges and negative feelings that you might feel. Don’t allow yourself to get bogged down by emotions of anger, hatred, and regret. Learn to let these things go and leave them where they’re supposed to be – in the past. There is no space in the future for any kind of negativity. You have to leave that all behind you if you truly want to heal.
8. Allow yourself to heal.
You should really allow yourself the time to heal from the emotional wounds and scars that have been inflicted on you. And like other kinds of wounds and scars, it can sometimes take some time to do so.
9. Be grateful for the things that are worth being grateful for.
There is always a silver lining. There is always a positive takeaway for any situation. Try to find one in the situation that you’re in now so that you can further uplift your spirits.
10. Detach.
This is it. This is the final step. Everything that you have been doing up to this point has led you to this moment. It’s at this time where you just really have to detach yourself from this individual. You have to accept that not all people you meet in life are worth keeping. You have to remember that some people play only temporary roles in your life. And once you’re done with them, you have to be able to detach from them. Yes, it might be difficult. But it’s what you need to do to open yourself up to the beautiful things that you are destined for in life
