It can be really difficult to get into a relationship. For some people, they have an easier time than others. But for the unlucky ones, it can be very disappointing to experience heartbreak after heartbreak. And for the most part, you probably don’t even know what you keep on doing wrong. You think you finally have a shot at landing a guy, and then the relationship just ends up blowing itself up in your face.
And then you’re left to go back to square one. You hate having to start over and over again. You want to be in a stable relationship that you can work on and nurture. You want a relationship that you can actually envision a future with.
So what are you doing wrong? Why can’t you ever seem to find success in life? Well, the answers aren’t always obvious. In fact, a lot of the mistakes that you’re committing might be very subtle. You always have to develop a sense of self-awareness in your love affairs so that you know how your potential partner is perceiving you. You can’t just choose to be aloof about it. So to enlighten you further, here are a few common mistakes that girls make which turn him off.
1. You always chase after the guy that is bad for you.
Relationship history is important. No decent guy is ever going to respect you if you just keep forcing yourself into relationships that are bad for you. It shows that you don’t have respect for yourself and that you are a little too desperate for romance. Stop settling for men and relationships that you don’t deserve.
2. You are too independent and unaccommodating of other people in your life.
Yes, it’s always great to be strong and independent. In fact, being a strong and independent woman in this day and age is a very attractive trait especially to quality men. But you also have to know how to pick your spots. If you project an image of total independence wherein you are no longer welcoming other people into your life, then no man is going to want to date you.
3. You always take but you never give.
Don’t be selfish. As cliche as it is, relationships will always be a give and take kind of situation. You don’t want to give your man any cause for concern by just continuing to take and take from a relationship without giving back. You have to make sure that you’re preserving the balance and harmony in the relationship.
4. You are relentless in your criticisms.
No man likes being criticized on a consistent and ruthless basis. Not to say that you have to censor yourself. You just have to be able to pick your spots. Not all flaws are worth criticizing. Be sensitive of your man’s feelings. Your criticisms could end up driving him away.
5. You are practically a magnet for drama.
It shouldn’t be new information to you. A vast majority of men just hate drama. They’re not having any of it. And so if you’re the type of girl who is always drawing drama into your life, then you are definitely the problem here.
6. You don’t give him any reasons to trust you.
Trust is an important aspect of any relationship. You have to be able to give him enough reasons to trust you. You have to be able to make him believe that you wouldn’t betray him and that it’s okay for him to fall for you.
7. You develop a false sense of entitlement and ownership over him.
You can never really own a person. Slavery isn’t a thing anymore and you should know that. Just because a man is interested in getting into a relationship with you doesn’t mean that you have the right to feel entitled to him. You don’t get to boss him around and act like a queen. That’s the quickest way to drive him into the arms of another.
8. You don’t live a fruitful life outside of your relationship.
Your entire life can’t be solely defined by your relationship. No quality guy on the face of this earth is going to want to be with a girl whose happiness is dependent on whether or not she’s in a relationship. You have to have a productive individual life outside of your relationship.
9. You aren’t honest with your feelings and your intentions.
You have to be honest with a man when it comes to your feelings. If you expect him to be a mind reader, then things aren’t going to go well for either of you. Just be upfront about your intentions and be open about what you’re feeling. He will appreciate you more for it.
10. You don’t open up about your life to him.
Yes, it pays off to be a little mysterious, but you have to be able to give him a little glimpse into your life. Gradually open yourself up more and more as you get deeper in the relationship. If you remained closed off forever, then he’s going to get fed up really quickly.
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